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MrAdviceGuyy
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Im new on the boards, but know have a relatively good idea what is talked about and so forth. I have several very close girl friends, who've i've talked about the wildest and most arousing things with, but even at this sometimes i pose a question to myself that i cannot answer.

Would it be smart for me to have some "fun" with one of my close female friends?

Now im not really looking for an answer, just some insight from my fellow man. I consider myself a deep guy, very moral, very faithful, very cautious about how the woman around me think. I believe woman are one of gods gift to men and they should be highly revered and treated with the utmost manner.

but..... on to my problem

I have this really good friend of mine, and i wonder if it would be smart for me to have "fun" with her. NO im not talkin sex or oral, just some good making out ect ect. We're really close but i often wonder if something like that would make think ackward. She's is very good looking and has a nice rack to boot, but would hanging my belongings on the rack change things in the future of our friendship. Possibly making future girlfriends nervous of the "friend who is extremely close and who i've made out with multiple times but wont while im going out with you" kinda statement.

Your thoughts?


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Dzuunmod
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I don't think we can really answer this for you, my friend. Nobody here (save for you) knows anything about this person, and so there's no way we can judge how that sort of arrangement would go over between you two. Sorry...

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Sid_Demise
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well to be honist i whould highley recomend not i repeat not trying to have a sexual relationship with a friend it will get very mess and im gesing that her friend ship will be lost and it sould to me that her friend ship is more improtant to you then the sexual busines so i think you can keep your thoughts and dreams of being with her and the fun you could have but i dont recomed persuing it
hay that is why guys have masterbation no one gets hurt

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Sid_Demise
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oups me and my butter fingers hit the button twice

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MrAdviceGuyy
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Well im not wanting to persue a sexual relationship as in sex. Im just wondering if it would be alright for me to kiss her or make out, im not talking sex or oral or anything like that. I've talked to her about it, and she wants to be friends as much as i do. But i dunno if kissing her will make things complicated or not.
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TheCagedOne
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Well MrAdviceGuyy, I'd say this is one you're definately gonna have to feel out on your own. Some "friends with benefits" relationships can work, and some won't. You will be taking a chance with your friendship if you decide to pursue a physical relationship with her, there's not really any way around that. It just comes down to if you think the risk is worth pursuing something physical. I would just suggest giving it lots of thought. Good luck
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