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i was just wondering what everyone's level of comfort is on the subject of masturbating.. how would you react if your boyfriend or guy friend starting telling you his habits, how often, when, where, etc?
i am not a very sexually driven person, and i do not masturbate. when people talk to me about it i tend to be pretty grossed out by the topic at hand.
Well I am pretty open about anything sexual. So i would react normally, i wouldn't get upset. It wouldn't bother me. I am comfortable w/ talking about my body and myself and when it comes to talking about sex or masterbation.
Masterbation is natural and normal. A lot of people do it so i doesn't bother me when people talk about it.
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I would't mind. I'd be really open talking about masturbation with friends or boyfriends. I don't think it's anything to be ashamed of or really anything you need to hide.
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I'm open about talking about sex and masturbation, but not to the whole world. I can talk about sex with some close friends of mine (those who aren't going to through some parade because I lost my virginity..if only they knew). Masturbation is something a lot deeper to me though that I have to be extremeley comfortable with who I talk about that with. To date actually, I've only talked to one person about masturbation with.
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I think maybe that kind of discussion would have bothered me a couple of years ago, but now it really wouldn't bother me at all. I'm not saying I'd be comfortable discussing it with the entire world...it's none of their business anyway. But I have discussed it with my best friend, and with my boyfriend, and it doesn't bother me at all.
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It wouldn't bother me if a friend, family member, or boyfriend started talking about masturbation. It's normal, and many ppl do it.
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If a family member started to talk about their habits I'd be a little...wierded out. Just because I'm not really close to anyone in my family (actually, there are a few people who tell me about their sex lives and it wouldn't bug me if they talked about masturbation...). I'm closer to my friends, and I wouldn't mind at all if they talked about it, and I have tlaked about it a lot to a lot of my friends and boy/girlfriends. Guys seem to be the most interested, they're just like "wow!" because it's still considered unusual for a gurl to talk about masturbation, or any sex in general.
But, I'm a really open kind of person anywya.
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I'll talk about it with pretty much any of my close friends, but I don't get too raunchy or into detail, really. I wouldn't mind hearing it from them ethier, and I do hear some stuff when we get going! I wouldn't talk to any family members about it, though, and might be a tad uncomfortable hearing about it from them, although I understand that it's natural and normal. I just don't want to hear any specific things from my mom or something..
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Masturbantion in the real world with my girlfriends makes me really uncomfortable. Mostly cause I think I'm the only one who does it. I used to feel really guilty about it, but not so much anymore.
I have spoken to one guy online about it, and my current bf who I see irl. I never confessed that I do it to him, it just sort of came out in conversation. He does it too, so sometimes we'll mention that we "take matters into our own hands" if we're missing each other. We don't mention it often, but are comfortable when it is mentioned, which I never thought I'd be.
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For me, It would make me feel akward if a family memeber started talking about it. But with my clsoe friends, its fine. We joke about it all the time. And my closer friends tell me techniques and other things. I think its good to talk about it with friends.
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My friends and I discuss this kind of thing constantly, so I'm pretty immune to being embarrassed by questions about sex and sexuality. I field guys' questions, I field girls' questions...
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My best friend and I talk about it, and one time we brought it up at a sleepover and all of our other friends got grossed out. My boyfriend and I talk about it a lot, because it helps us understand each other's bodies. My boyfriend and I have masturbated together so we can teach each other what we like.
Now if one of my family members started talking about it I would leave the room, because I honestly don't want to hear it from them.
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I'm totally open about masturbation, but like most of you, not to the whole world. I wouldn't just go up to some stranger and tell him/her about my masturbation methods. I can talk about it to my friends though. Probably not my parents, but any friends that I could trust.
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I'm pretty new to the boards here (note the massive number of messages sent!! ), and I'm really surprised at how many ppl say "I wouldn't be comfortable talking to my parents about sex/masturbation etc". I was raised in a Pagan/Wiccan family, which I guess has shaped my attitudes and stuff. but can anyone say why exactly they don't feel comfortable talking to their parents about sex etc? Ta Posts: 66 | From: Perth, Australia | Registered: May 2001
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Hey, there is nothing at all wrong with it, and it is not gross at all. In fact, it is the easiest way to keep from having unprotected sex or sex before you are ready. I'd be happy to talk more about this with anyone who would like to. Write to my e-mail address. Kathy
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i think it's normal...if people don't do it..the world would be a much scarier place with waaay more frustrated people...this is the safest outlet for people and i don't think it's really gross come to think of it..i mean...you can have sex when u want, how you want, any way you want!...you can regulate it, faster, slower etc....masturbation's perfect!..in fact, i think Marylin Manson surgically removing his two lower ribs to be able to bend down and perform oral sex on himself is also highly practical...i mean...come on!...how many guys would die to have a blowjob and go around begging people to do it for them?...manson's oral sex is safe, practical, economical, anytime, anywhere, the way he likes it!...hehe
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several points: i don't mind talking about masturbation cos my family is very sexually-open (in a strictly talking way, not doing) but my friends are. they don't like it brought up in convo unless they're:- a] teasing me about my openness b] asking for advice i was involved with a bloke before who had a weird obsession with masturbation and used to get aroused by talking about it. but it did make me more aware that almost everyone did it and not just me.
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