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confusedchick
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my bf and i are talking about having intercourse. i really want to and so does he! but im afraid that he wont like my boobs! theyre really ugly! im not sure if theyre inverted or what!but they have like these big puffy nipples! mayb its because im so young, but does anyone else have this problem?

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Lauren22
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You shouldnt worry too much about it, I have a similar self doubt... my breasts have stretch marks on them. But when I was younger I thought that boobs were ugly in general. How old are you? If your boyfriend wants to have sex its gotta be with YOU not your boobs. If he truly cares (and he better if ur gonna have sex with him) then he will think you are beautiful, all over.

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confusedchick
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hey lauren! thanks for all your support! your really awesome! im only 14! and my bf is 16! so i just get scared when he goes up my shirt that he might think its wierd! and im even more scared that when we have sex he'll think its wierd!

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Lauren22
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WOW that is so weird... Im 14 too and my boyfriend is ALSO 16! Creepy! Well I can understand how you feel... my guy is also roamin around but Im totally comfortable with him cause I know he luvs me for me.

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Hey, should consider himself lucky to be touchin your breasts at all. 'Puffy' nipples certainly aren't inverted, nor are they weirs, ugly, or anything nasty like that. They're just one of the many kinds of nipples you can have, and they're as perfectly good and attractive as any other klind. I suspect at your age that you haven't seen many other women's breasts, so yours may seem abnormal just because you don't realise what a broad 'normal' is. Really, if you're this bothered by your breasts, I don't think think you're ready for intercourse. Why not go over our checklist, and spend a little more time learning to love yourself?
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hey lauren!
thats so wierd and cool that we have so many things in common! i'd really like to talk to you more, so you can email me @ **no e-mail addresses, please**. thanks so much for all you help!


and milke, i had no idea that my nipples are normal, i thought that they were wierd! thank you so much for clearing that up for me!

[This message has been edited by Milke (edited 07-31-2001).]


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Confusedchick - you shouldn't supply your e-mail address in the message boards! Anyone who reads that now has your e-mail...

Anyways, I don't think that you are comfortable enough with your body to engage in intercourse. Milke is right - you really need to check out that checklist to see if you truly are ready.

Well, I hope I helped. And about the e-mail thing - it's just a warning: as soon as any of the people running this site see it, it will be gone.

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Don't worry don't worry!

If you're boyfriend really cares for you then things like this should make absolutly no difference at all to him!

And it's most likely not as bad as you think it is...cause that's just the way it usually is!

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To share your body w/ someone else you first have to be comfortable with it. Get to know your body.

Don't worry, if your boyfriend really cares about you he isn't going to care what your boobs look like, they're just another part of the human body.

So get to know yourself better and when you're comfortable w/ yourself you'll feel better about having sex.

Good luck and i hope this helps

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Milke hit this one one the head - if you're this worried about your appearance it could be that you're not ready to have sex with him yet. Aren't you jumping ahead a bit? I'm assuming he would see your breasts before you even have intercourse. Take things slow and be comfortable. By the time you actually get around to intercourse you should feel comfortable with him or you'll have to seriously think twice about what you're doing.
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eek i'm 14! and i havn't even had a boyfriend yet. *i believe it's because they can't handle me*

but u culd have sex with ur shirt on.
heh heh

or it culd be really dark and he wuldn't care. guys dont kare too much as long as theyr not hairy i think so stay cool


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hey gurl, listen... EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU IS BEAUTIFUL!keep saying that to yourself. when i was 15 i had sex for the first time wth my bf. i was scared cuz im a tad chunky (not fat fat just thick) and i thought he was gonna gag to death. when he saw me he said... "god babygirl, EVERYTHING about you is beautiful." thats how i started loving MY body. i just kept repeating that to myself until i loved myself. u should do the same thing. remember.. EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU IS BEAUTIFUL!
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Maybe you should talk to him beforehand. Tell him about your concerns. Who knows? He is probably worrying about what you'll think of his body right now!
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awww unluckynlove that is so sweet!!! anyways... my nipples are big & puffy too... (plus they arent the nice round look, theyre long and pointy, but hey boobs come in all shapes & sizes!) so dont worry! i was like are my nipples suppose to be that big? but then i read somewhere they can be as big as a CD! but really if i wasnt comfortable with my first (in the future, im a virgin) guy seeing my boobs then id know i wasnt ready. *and* if they make fun of anything on your body, forget him! i had a guy make fun of my "big" nipples and yea he just doesnt get the privledge of seeing them anymore.

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For the record, women's nipples tend to be "puffy" when they're not aroused. This comes as a shock to some of us because all the breasts we see in movies and on TV and websites are shots of women with *erect* nipples.

To me, the fact that they're puffy when unaroused makes sense. Your breasts are designed for feeding babies among other things (even if you decide you're never going to have them!) and a baby needs to get that whole thing in it's very little mouth. It's easiest when the nipple is flat. Try squeezing your nipple flat when puffy, and then when errect - which goes flatter?

In my experience, they change through your teens, as well. They can actually be "puffier" when your breasts are still developing, and quite tender, etc... it's the hormones, making their rounds

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quote:
Originally posted by muddcookie:
but u culd have sex with ur shirt on.
heh heh

or it culd be really dark and he wuldn't care. guys dont kare too much as long as theyr not hairy i think so stay cool


Hey. Guys aren't all the same type, or year, or model, or serial number. Really. They all like different things. And we ARE all mammals here (hence the breast discussion), so body hairs ARE to be expected.

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i agree with lemming, i mean we cant stereotype all guys to be bullheaded d***heads. plus, muddcookies comment there probably didnt help you at all huh confusedchick? one of the best things about making love is seeing your lover fully, thats what makes it intimate, seeing any flaws your lover has, and vice versa, if he has a problem with something thats NOT EVEN A FLAW, then he obviously has his own flaws, IN HIS BRAIN! plus all girls have peachfuzz (also referring to muddcookie and lemming) unless they choose to shave it off, ouch!!!!! it makes it worse if u do that, well thats enough pearls of mis-wisdom (per say)from me today! peace and outties
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Yep, I know what you're talking about. I have that. It just goes with your body. After a while you learn to live with it, it's actually not all that bad. From every guy who I have ever been with, they say that it's sexy! So go for it, if he really loves you, then it won't matter.

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I have the same fear! I am not going to have sex until after I am married but I still worry about it. I mean I think my boobs look weird too! I afraid he'll be grossed out or think they're ugly. When you see boobs in movies the nipples are sticking out and there is a lot of flesh like under the nipple. Well unless I'm like cold or something my nipples are like not sticking out a lot and they're and the area around them are puffy. Also they don't have like more fat under them, they're like in the middle of my boobs...ya know?
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lah lah lah.

my boobies are uneven. one's nice and plump, and the other, just isn't plump. if i draw a straight line from under the plump boob where it "attaches" to my body across to the other one, it's wayyyy below where the other one attaches. uck.

however, as much as i don't like it, and cannot wear things without a bra cos it's uneven, my boyfriend doesn't care...sooo....the point is...

if your boyfriend really cares, it won't matter. and i'm sure he has his own qualms about his body too! just talk to hiM!

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