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Dani461
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So my bf and I barely had sex like twice and I've been on birth control for months before we did it and never missed a pill. We used a condom and he was only in me for a short time and didn't ejaculate but I'm soo scared that I'm pregnant because I'm on my placebo pills and usually by the time I take my second pill my period has come and I may have cramps or something but I have no cramps or anything and I'm so scared that it won't come. The last time we had sex was about 2 weeks ago. HELP [Frown]
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Heather
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Dani, can you please go through this link first?

http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/28/t/006958.html

Thanks!

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Dani461
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Okay thanks [Smile] I just have a quick question. If its possible for someone to get pregnant from coming into contact with semen around the vagina then can't a virgin become pregnant?
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Heather
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How people define "virgin" varies, but if someone has the kind of sex or sexual contact that can create a pregnancy, and they are a person who can become pregnant( usually just meaning they have a uterus and are old enough to ovulate), they can become pregnant.

And unless we're talking about a sexual assault, usually the way someone is going to have vaginal contact with semen is by having a kind of sex, so talking about virginity doesn't make much sense in this context.

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Dani461
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I mean sexual intercourse. Like if a girl never had sexual intercourse and her boyfriend ejaculated on her vagina can she get pregnant?
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Heather
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Yes, because having had intercourse or not in the past has no bearing on if someone can get pregnant or not.

IOW, intercourse doesn't change the body in any way to make it more easy to become pregnant ever after. Someone's vagina, uterus, ovaries and the hormones involved in reproduction don't change because of intercourse (unless they do become pregnant, mind).

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oh wow.. Society makes it seem like it is impossible to be a virgin and pregnant
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When culture-at-large talks about virginity, they usually mean someone who hasn't had any of the kinds of sex that can create a pregnancy, not just vaginal intercourse. So, I'd say the world-at-large would not likely call someone who has chosen to engage in sex where a partner is ejaculating on her vulva a virgin.

Culture-at-large usually isn't referring to "technical" virginity (where someone can have every kind of sex under the sun and so long as they haven't had vaginal intercourse, they're a virgin), even though some young people frame it that way.

Does that help?

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