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DogLover
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i am just wondering, are you more fertile when you've just finished your period or just before you start your period? i know everyones different but for the morjority or women.

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In a typical, perfect, twenty-eight day cycle, with day one being the first day of your period, a woman will ovulate on the 14th day of her cycle - so, about a week after the end of her period. Thing is, especially for young women, most bodies aren't that regulated. So, you might ovulate at the very beginning of your cycle, or the very end. It's unlikely but you could even ovulate during your period. There really is no way for someone to tell if she is ovulating if her cycles haven't regulated themselves yet. Once they do become regular, you could check out the FAM contraceptive method (http://www.scarleteen.com/article/body/get_with_the_flow_all_about_fam) in order to figure out when you're ovulating.
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Using only a calendar even if you have had your period for years, is not very reliable at all. Day 14 is really just an average, even if the woman has a 28 day cycle. The only way to accurately chart your fertility (as in the article rosalinespork linked) is to take a daily basal temperature and check cervical mucus.
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DogLover
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so if i finished my period 2morrow and had sex the day after and the guy cumed in me, is there a high pregnancy risk?

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StrangePudding
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There is a high risk of pregnancy ANY time intercourse takes place without the use of birth control. Check it out: http://www.scarleteen.com/pregnancy_risk_assessment_vaginal_intercourse. In fact, according to that page, your risk is generally higher during the first half of your cycle (which includes the day you're talking about). As a young woman, it's very important that if you do not want to become pregnant you use some method of birth control besides relying on timing with your cycles because that is very unreliable for younger women. Do you need help finding some sort of birth control that would work for you?
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no i am trying to get pregnant
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Do you mind if I ask when this happened, if it was just a couple of days ago you might still have the opportunity to take emergency contraceptive. You can have up to 120 hours (5 days) if you are still in that window you should consider getting it ASAP, the sooner the better.
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Karybu
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DogLover, can I ask how long you've been trying to get pregnant, and whether you've talked this over with your gynecologist? It's a good idea for any woman trying to get pregnant to have a full physical, pelvic exam and STD screening to make sure she's in good health and able to go through a pregnancy safely. Your gyn will also be able to tell you a bit more about charting your cycles to see when you're most fertile.

There are a lot of other things to consider as well when you're trying to get pregnant - kids are life-changing in pretty fundamental ways. How does your partner feel about parenting? Is he willing to be an active parent and supportive partner, or do you expect to be single-parenting? What are your finances like? Your housing situation? Are you hoping to continue with school during your pregnancy and after? You've also mentioned here before that you have a phobia of doctors. Pregnancy and childbirth involves a lot of medical care: regular prenatal checkups, often ultrasounds, and most women give birth in a hospital setting. Are you comfortable with that?

From the birth date you've given in your profile, it looks like you're 16 - while I'm not at all suggesting that parenting as a teen is impossible, there are a lot of factors that can make it more difficult than parenting when you're in your twenties or thirties. What are the reasons you feel now is a good time to become a parent, as opposed to later in your life? I'd really encourage you to have a good long think about that, as well as the other questions I've asked here. You might also, if you haven't already, want to have a read through this article: I Want It NOW!

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DogLover
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well i wont try getting pregnant but i wont avoide it happening. i want to get pregnant but if it happens, it happens. and all the questions you ask yea there all fine.
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I think that quite a few people here will agree with me when I say that taking the "if it happens, it happens" attitude combined with unprotected sex IS trying to get pregnant, but often without assuming the responsibility of taking care of your health in the way that you should before getting pregnant.

I'm going to re-emphasize the questions Karybu asked, but in bullet form just to make them a bit more clear. These are REALLY important questions for you to consider.

  • What are the reasons you feel now is a good time to become a parent, as opposed to later in your life?
  • Are you hoping to continue with school during your pregnancy and after?
  • What are your finances like? Your housing situation?

I strongly believe that being a good parent begins with thinking about questions like these before you become a parent. You owe it to a child to prepare adequately before their arrival, and you owe it to yourself and any child to seek out proper medical care, something you have indicated will be really difficult for you.

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DogLover
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right well i just feel now is a good time to become pregnant, i cant explain why, it just feels right. its hard 2 explain. i attend college at the moment but that wil be finished in few weeks. i will take a year or 2 out to have the baby and look after him or her but then go back to college, i have ffamily members who can help wit the childcare and everything, and who would help. i have a big house wit big rooms and spare rooms so thats all fine. if i get pregnant then i do. i just have to see what happens in the future really.
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DogLover: since your parenting plan involves other members of your family, have you discussed this plan with them? Are they in agreement per providing childcare for you?

I ask that because if that's the plan, everyone involved shouldn't just be assumed to be on board, especially if you're planning to rely on them for housing, childcare, other costs, etc. That kind of co-parenting is just an awful lot to assume without some deep discussion and some tangible agreements.

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