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xXxSweetxAngelxXx
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I am 21 weeks pregnant and since i have found out i was pregnant i have been turned off sex i rarley feel like it and my boyfriend is always arguing with me thinking that i dont like him anymore or that im cheating on him. In my last pregnancy i didnt mind it but this time i do is this normal

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KittenGoddess
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Yes, it can be completely normal not to be interested in sex while you're pregnant (or at any point in your life, really).

Especially with so many hormonal changes and body changes going on, it's not surprising that some changes to sexual desire are going to happen too. Even if it didn't happen in previous pregnancies, that's fine. Not every pregnancy is the same.

I'd encourage you to find other things in your relationship that create that intimacy, like cuddling, holding hands, doing other things together, etc.

But yes, you can tell your partner that this is normal and okay. Has he read any books about pregnancy? I ask because that's discussed in just about all of them in talking about changes to bodies and relationships caused by pregnancy. If not, then you might want to pick up a book to help him really understand what this experience is like for your body/relationship and what he can expect. (You may want to pick up a book about babies as well.)

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xXxSweetxAngelxXx
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Yes he has read some pregnancy books but thinks that im still cheating on him or something cause he thinks its wierd how i pretty much dont want it at all..

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xXxSarahxXx

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Heather
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Well, can you inform him again that it is NOT weird, but that low libido at any time, and certainly during pregnancy, is perfectly normal?

Might you also make clear that pregnancy is stressful for you even more than it is for him, and that his accusations are hurtful and stressful to you? Can you talk about what you need from a partner right now when it comes to support, even when they aren't getting some things they want from you?

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