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goofyface303
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So my boyfriend and i didnt have sex but we did dry sex and his penis came in contact with my vagina however this was after i performed oral sex on him...another thing is im on day 26 of my cycle and have about 3 to 5 days before my period is gonna start should i go buy the plan b. and is the fact that i performed oral sex on him before the act lessen the chance that any precum was viable
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You providing oral sex doesn't change anything in your risk scenario, save that if that was unprotected, you may have had STI risks from that as well as any genital contact.

When you say his penis came in contact with your vagina, what do you mean exactly? Are we talking about his penis brushing you casually, or are we talking about both of you nude rubbing your genitals together...?

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we were nude and rubbing genitals
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i feel so stupid for doing this i really need some advice im at a loss and i dont know if i should tell him yet
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Okay. When that's what's going on, we're really not talking about dry sex anymore, because that involves fluid sharing. So, your risks are more like those of intercourse without ejaculation. Did he ejaculate during this?

(Just FYI? From here on out, that is not something to do unprotected if you do not want to risk pregnancy and/or an infection. Do you feel able to insist on condom use in the future?)

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no he didnt i began to feel bad about what we were doing so i told him to stop
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Okay. So, what we are likely looking at here is basically the withdrawal method -- in other words, you had the kinds of risks intercourse presents, but without a full ejaculation. In perfect use, that leaves around a 4% risk of pregnancy, with typical use, around a 27% risk. Given you are expecting your period soon, you are likely also in a least fertile time in your cycle.

So, having all of that information to consider, what do you feel you'd like to do? When was this risk again exactly?

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we did this last night and this morning i began to think that that was the stupidest thing i could have done and then my mind started to race. i know friends told me about Plan B but ive heard crazy things about how it affects your body... and i can assure you that from now on im going to let the physical stuff in our relationship die down we plan on getting married in about two years and i really dont want any thing to happen btwn now and then
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Well, we'll often hear crazy things about a lot of things, especially when people aren't informed. The effects of Plan B tend to be pretty similar to that of regular birth control pills.

Here's our page on Plan B for you to look at: Emergency Contraception (Plan B or the Morning-After-Pill).

I'm happy to answer any questions you might have after you read that.

Don't forget, too, that if you two have ever had any other sexual partners for anything and have not had a recent screening for sexually transmitted infections, that's something to tend to (both of you) as well.

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im sry but i have one more question if you were in my position would you buy the plan b
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Would I? If I didn't know my fertility cycle very well, then yes, I probably would. But I should qualify that by saying that not becoming pregnant is pretty ginormous for me for a bunch of reasons. But I'd also be more worried about STIs than pregnancy in this scenario.

As well, this is one of those hypotheticals that's tough for me because I just don't tend to take those kinds of risks and do anything unprotected in the first place.

Ultimately, this is going to be about what level of risk you feel comfortable with and what seems best for you.

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Thank you so much for your advice i really appreciate it and i think im going to think about it for today...Plan B is what im leaning towards and as far as STI we have only been with each other as we are both virgins but i will never be doing anything like this unless protected...

and two more questions is my risk for pregnancy high and does barnes and noble carry your book..i cant really get information on sex from my parents and my dad usually monitors my internet usuage thats why im at the library

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Again, I'd not class this as a high risk. It seems likely to be a low risk.

Barnes and Noble does carry the book, but sometimes a given branch is out, so you have to special order it through them (which is free, you just may have to wait for it a week or two). But you can also find it through Amazon.

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thank you again so much
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Happy to be of help. [Smile]

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hi again heather i could not obtain plan b, i all of the pregnancy centers in MS only give tests and so when i decided to go to the actual store to buy it my mom's friend was there working... im so worried and dont know what to do know its the only place that has it and she has been working this whole week
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How may days has it been now since your possible risk, 4 or 5?

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about to be 5
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Sorry to come so late, and that another volunteer didn't pop in: I was working the shelter today away from home.

Can I ask why you didn't ask your boyfriend for help? If he can help now, he can also get it for you. Or, you can just go ahead and get it then talk to your Mom. You also have the option of getting it through a walk-in clinic or your doctor.

But if it's getting close to five, you've already left the 72-hour window where it's most effective, and you're getting closer to a time where it may not be at all. So, at this point, you may also want to consider you may just need to wait this scare out.

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i got a friend to drive me to the next city over and i bought some i took it around 1 this evening and was debating on whether or not to take the 2nd pill before the 12 hour span...i read that you can take both in one dose or split them up into two doses 12 hours apart...im very confused at this point
also when i took the first one i felt okay except for drowsiness and bloating ... is the pill still working

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my boyfriend lives out of town at college and he was going to drive down but couldnt yet... how worried should i be... i think im gonna freak out
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Like I said, this does not sound like a high risk:

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So, what we are likely looking at here is basically the withdrawal method -- in other words, you had the kinds of risks intercourse presents, but without a full ejaculation. In perfect use, that leaves around a 4% risk of pregnancy, with typical use, around a 27% risk. Given you are expecting your period soon, you are likely also in a least fertile time in your cycle.
As you can see, it's probably even a pretty small one.

Freaking out probably won't make you feel better, and getting stressed out might also delay your period, which you obviously don't want to wait on any more than you have to.

So, I'd just try and relax for now, even though I know it's not easy.

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okay i just hope that the pill helps...thank you again im trying not to spaz again...guess later i'll take the second pill and then play the waiting game my bf is coming down tomorrow first thing in the morning and watching me for a while...
thank you so much and we had a talk and decided on never doing that again until we have said our i do's

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well i was expecting my period today and it didnt come.... is this the plan b's fault or is it bc im pregnant and should i take a test now.
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