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My boyfriend's cousin recently had an abortion. It was her third pregnancy, she already has a little boy aged two and a half and a baby girl who is 15 months old. All three pregnancies were mistakes. She decided to have an abortion this time as there was a high risk of very premature birth. She was also going through a lot of stress at the time with her children when their father took them without consulting her and it was taken to court. She was diagnosed as having postnatal depression. Will this have been caused by the abortion? because at the time her baby daughter was 13 months old. Or has she had postnatal depression since Amy was born and its only really come to a head since the abortion?

And how can we help her aswell? we've had the babies on a couple of days, taken Josh to the zoo and i've had Amy over night once. Is this helping her do you think? Is there anything else we can do to help?

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It could be either. No matter what we do with a pregnancy, there are still chemical changes in our bodies which can create pregnancy-related depression. It's more likely it has been going on from the last birth, but also possible it is from this last terminated pregnancy. Of course, it's also likely she has situational depression from ALL of this stuff going on right now.

One way to maybe help if you're really close is to see how you can help her not keep getting in this situation in the first placve. Does she need help boundary-setting? Getting and using a reliable method of birth control? As well, is she getting any counseling or professional support? If not, you could help her get that.

You can also just ASK her how you can help.

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Thanks for the info relating to the depression maybe from last pregnacy.

We've tried asking her to see a counsellor and i even asked if she wanted the phone number of MY counsellor as well as telling her that she should be able to see someone through her GP. I've not seen her in a couple of weeks due to my own family stuff but from what i can gather she's still refusing to see anyone. As it goes for birth control, i know she was on the pill before Josh was born and then she went onto the injection as she thought it would be more reliable, only forgot to go and get it and ended up pregnant with Amy. I've no idea how she ended up pregnant the last time. I was still under the impression she was having the injection contraceptive, but i am questioning that now. Myself and Michelle aren't particularly close as friends go. We have aquintances but we mostly confer about the children and when i have them so it's not always easy to ask about things like her birth control.

I will try to ask her though, how more i can help her. Thank you

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