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thesmall001
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Hey,

A few months ago i asked here about wanting to be a father at a young age, i was assured by people here that it's a bad idea, mainly, because of the requirements that a child needs (time, attention, money etc.)

Recently; Dean, my good friend for several years, has found out that his girlfriend is pregnant, they are both 17.

He assures me they have always used protection and I belive him.

Well the ironic thing is . . .

They don't seem to be having any trouble with it X-S.

He's going to continue school (where he is already reciving benefits for attending furthur education) and he already has a job.

She has decided to not try for anymore education (having finished her GCSE's)and she intends to keep the baby.

Just a little irony i thought i'd share with you lol.

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Djuna
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The thing is, they're both going to be 35 before the child goes to college and their lives can begin again - that's assuming they have just one. And they won't have had any teenage life. You only live once. [Smile]

P.S. Unless you believe in reincarnation (I'm not sure either way at the moment. I believe there is a 'next life', but I'm not sure if it's in the same world.)

[ 08-17-2006, 04:09 PM: Message edited by: smileyjoseph ]

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The thing is, she's still pregnant. Yes, that brings changes in of itself, but nothing like how it is to have a living being right in front of you, demanding some form of attention near 24/7.

I wish the best for your friend and his girlfriend. Some people really do okay when they have children young, and I hope they can find a way of doing so.

My own sis got pregnant at 16, and she's doing fine with everything. But it did mean giving up a lot of the stuff she wanted to do, and it's caused a lot of problems between her and her now-fiancee. They're both delaying their education, and it's hard to find a workplace that'll be understanding of their situation.

My point is, it's too soon to make the all-clear call. Check in on them 3 months into their child's life, and ask how well they're handling it all. Chances are, they'll tell you they couldn't have imagined the changes it brought. [Smile]

[ 08-17-2006, 04:20 PM: Message edited by: Miss Lauren ]

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thesmall001
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You make some good points and luckily since i'm 2 years younger, by the time they need a baby sitter i'll be looking for a small job :-D

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Djuna
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quote:
The thing is, she's still pregnant.
Of course, what I meant was that this doesn't mean that having children at 17 is a great idea.

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Heather
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I'm not sure how this is ironic.

First of all, your friend isn't the one who's pregnant, so his stresses at this stage of the game are miniscule at best.

It's also typical, however difficult pregnancy can be, for the early parts to be relatively easy. As time goes on, it gets tougher.

Suffice it to say, after a baby is born, chalenges and stresses increase exponentially. When your friends girlfriend hasn't gotten a full nights sleep for six months, ask her how she feels. Several years down the line, talk to them both: to your male friend supporting a family on one income -- if they've even managed to be able to do it that long, or he's even still around full-time -- to his girlfriend in tossing aside her education. Twenty years from now, ask them both about it.

We've got young adult parents who have posted here and talked about their experiences: feel free to dig around and read them. While you'll find plenty of them down with their choice and loving their kids, you're hard-pressed to find a one, especially a few years down the line, who's going to tell you everything is and was hunky-dory.

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