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ashy33
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i've been having sex with my boyfriend for about 5 months now, and we have 10 times. we have been using condoms, spermicide insert things, and waiting until at least the 20th day in my cicle. am i still at risk of getting pregnant?
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I can very clearly say no.

Condoms, when used correctly, leave virtually no risk of pregnancy by themselves. The spermicide inserts are not necessary, nor is abstaining certain days.

You might want to consider obtaining a method of birth control from a doctor, to use with condoms, to put your mind at rest.

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ashy33
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the thing is i really can't get birth control from a doctor, so i want to make sure i'm doing everything i can when having sex o protect myself from pregnancy. i do believe that i use the condoms correctly, but i just want to be sure.
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Just as long as you follow all the condom basics;

http://www.scarleteen.com/infection/condom.html

You have no reason to worry about a thing. [Smile] If the extra methods make you feel safer, then go for it, though be on the lookout for any possible irritation the spermicide could cause.

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ashy33
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thank you very much.
is there any sort of over-the-counter birth control method you would recomend in addition to the condoms?
i've read all about success rates and all, i just feel like i always hear people talking about how condoms are faulty and it scares me.

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Your over-the-counter choices include male condoms, female condoms, spermicides, and more recently, contraceptive sponges.

I'm curious though, hun, about why you can't see a medical professional. If you can't afford to go, or don't want somebody to know (your parents, partner, etc), there are clinics such as Planned Parenthood that protect confidentiality and charge only what you can afford.

(As for the condom failure rates: it's helpful to realize that it is the most popular birth control method. Some people find it a lot easier to claim a condom broke/didn't function correctly than to admit to others that they weren't practicing responsible sex.)

[ 08-04-2006, 01:17 AM: Message edited by: Miss Lauren ]

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i don't want my parents to know.
i would go to planned parenthood, but i'm not usre how i'd get there since i don't drive and my boyfriend doesn't have a car. i'm also don't have any money to spend right now. i'm saving for college and any money i earn goes directly to my account, so i really couldn't spend money on pills every month.

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You have effective pregnancy protection for now, but medical examinations are increasingly important once you're sexually active.

I'd strongly recommend you try to get in somewhere, whether through your family doctor or the clinic, for a full pelvic exam. This ensures any problems you experience get caught early, and help safeguard your sexual health for the long-haul.

You could call your local clinic in advance, tell them your situation, and ask how much a visit would cost. They serve many young people, and are used to answering questions. Here is the site for Planned Parenthood of Indiana:

http://www.ppin.org/patient_info.aspx

Could you take public transportation, or find a supportive older friend/relative to give you a lift?

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i probably could. i'm planning on talking to my boyfriend about it when see him today. he's very supportive and i know he will be about this too. he can probably help me figure out how to get there. thank you for the help.
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