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OK This doesnt exactly involve me, but my friend came to with this issue, told me the whole story..but I dont exactly know how to advise her for her stupid decesion.

See her and her boyfriend have been having some trouble, always fighting etc.
So in I guess an act for desperation, she decided to do something that would basically ruin his life(well not ruin but completely change it.)

About a 2 weeks ago, her and her boyfriend were getting pretty into it she ended up giving him oral(no condom)..and went to the bathroom to spit it out..ended up spiting into her hand a wiping the cum/spit around the opening of her vagina..why she did it I have no idea.
She didnt wipe it off, and she went back to have unprotected sex, he ended up pulling out and no orgasming.

I dont know what to tell her, or what her chances of being pregnant are..It was pretty stupid, but she has a mental illness..etc.
Then she brought the issue of well "I'm not, because on my ovulation calendar it said I wasnt very fertile today, and my chances of pregnancy are low.".

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Well, no, from this she HAS had a pregnancy risk, as well as putting both her and her partner at risk of STIs. (Even aside from the fact of what she did after they engaged in oral sex, having unprotected intercourse whether or not he ejaculated presented a risk for both)

Unless she's been charting her basal temperature and cervical mucus, an ovulation calendar is going to mean squat, so she can't know if she could ovulate or not, and aside from that, sperm can live inside the vagina for up to 5-7 days.

Has your friend seen a counselor or therapist about her mental illness? This action makes me really think she acted incredibly rashly, by not only deceiving her boyfriend, but by putting her own health and well-being at SERIOUS risk. If she has not seen anyone before, is there anyway that you could suggest this to her?

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