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My younger sister had unprotected sex with two different boys in the same month. She said the first was on August 14 and the second was August 23 she conceived on the 24th.So which is more likely to be the father?
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oh and was most fertile aroud the 19th
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Had your younger sister actually been charting her ovulation patterns? If not, she can't know when she was ovulating.

If she WAS charting -- and she's also had regular mesntrual cycles to even do so, for at least five years -- and the 19th was her predicted ovulaton day from the cycle before, then the August 14th date would be far more likely. And conception also does not happen in just a couple days, so.

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Yeah she does calculate,she said her last cycle started on the 10th and ended on the 14th actually she had sex on the 15th with the first and she ovulated on the 19th
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Can I ask how she charts: just mucus, or basal temps too? Because day 19 for ovulation that cycle would not actually fit the pattern. Based on the dates you gave me, if we're just using dates, it's most likely that her previous cycle -- on which one bases ovulation predictions for the next -- in July, would have had her ovulating on the 26th. That's a pretty significant difference in the next cycle, then, for ovulation to happen on the 19th, and that'd also make that August cycle 36 days long.

(Just to be clear: any one cycle begins with the first day of the menstrual period, and ends the day before the next menstrual period. So, in case all those dates you listed in your last post are to be for ONE month, and I'm misunderstanding the dates to mean over two months, that month's cycle could not have started on the 10th and ended on the 14th, as no menstrual cycle is four days long.)

But you know: this is ALL pretty academic. The only sound way she's gping to be able to establish paternity here is after the baby is born, with medical tests.

(Ot's also academic, but I can't help but wonder why someone who takes the time to chart would TWICE in a month take those pregnancy risks, too, especially if she DID have any interest in validating paternity.)


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yeah its for one month which is august
and what i was saying was that her period started august 10th ended in august 14th and she had intercourse with her boyfriend on the next day which was the 15th. She says its about 23 days before her next period and she was most fertile on august 19 and she conceived on august 24th which was the day after her little one night stand, now when i say younger i don't mean she's in her teens, she's 21 and I'm 23.

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Okay, then it's pretty clear either she's not charting -- as she doesn't even understand when a cycle starts and ends, and you have to to chart -- or you misunderstood her.

Because she could not have a cycle start the 10th and end the 14th. If her last period was on August 10th, that cycle would end, on average, around September 8th. Menstruation and then the whole of a monthly fertility cycle cannot, again, occur in a four-day time period.


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i edited the last message can you read it again miz scarlet?
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I can, and that now makes much more sense. Thank you.

Again, this is academic: she can't accurately verify paternity for sure until after her child is born.

That said, especially if her doctor said conception was on the 24th, it isn't likely to be the second guy, because conception doesn't happen in one day, and her first risk would have happened right in the window of her most fertile time, if this pattern of menses and ovulation was typical for her.

Suffice it to say, though, blips happen, some women even ovulate twice in a cycle sometimes, and charting can only help us PREDICT ovulation, not verify it, so one can't say it was impossible. If she's having the child with her partner, and she hasn't already, it'd be both sage and kind for her to tell him about the other partner she had that month (especially since she had unprotected sex, meaning if she's still been with her partner since, she's put him at those risks and it is not okay not to inform a partner about things which can impact their own health profoundly).


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Well she did tell her boyfriend, just not that it was unprotected, but I'll encourage her because i'm really concerned and very protective of her
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