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barbiedoll
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the father
cause he has a right to know first. its his isn't it.

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I'd probably tell my good friend who would be supportive, then i would tell the father when i knew what i wanted to do. and i'd also probably tell my auntie who is the main person i talk to.
My parents would be the last to know i think.

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I would for sure tell the father of the baby first. Then I think we would tell his parents because they wouldn't go all crazy or anything. Then some how we would find a way to tell my parents.

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I would tell the daddy first because then we could think together on how to tell the grandparents. I think we would probably fight over whose parents to tell first (since both would get upset) but we'd probably go with mine. I'm pretty confident that my parents would be nicer than his.

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I would tell my bestfriend Nikki first, she's the only person I really think I could trust with that information. Then I'd probably tell the father. My mom and grandparents would be the last people I'd tell.

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The daddy! He NEEDS to know right away. Then I would tell my mother probably. =]

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My 2 best friends, the father, and my parents. :-)
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My doctor.

Last time, most of my friends were there when I took the test, and the biofather told everyone in screaming tantrumy fit.

The first person I personally told was my mother. Moms and dads are a lot less scary than you think, folks. I was convinced my mother was going to be extremely angry and disown me, but she helped me out more than anyone -- even the friends who I *thought* would be my support system. You know how many of those friends I still have? One.

Next time, it'll be the biofather and my son, then we'll keep it under wraps until I'm about to start showing, and tell both sets of parents and siblings after things aren't so fragile.


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Strangely, the first person I told was not my best friend, the baby's father, my mother, or any other family member. I simply called a friend.
A different approach like that I believe gave me the chance to speak those words "I am pregnant" without having to hear the shock/anger/etc... I expected others to have.
Second, I told my older sister.
Third, I told my mother.
Fourth, I told my twin sister.
And finally, I told the father who became terrified and suicidal.

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If I was pregnant, I would tell my mom and my boyfriend's family first then tell the rest of the people who does care about me. I would knew that I screw up my life if I was. Thats all I know....for now
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Personally, my best friend who went with me knew first and then a few other very close friends. Then the Father, my older brother, my mom and dad(step) and then my real father. I had a really hard time with this all...I wrote my mom a note and I was in councelling at the time and asked if she read it, she hadn't and then she asked "why are you pregnant" LOL. With my realy dad, my brother, who is one of my best friends went with my and help me, supported me I suppose.
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I would tell my baby's dad first and after that I would tell my best friends/sister & soon to be brother in law then i would eventually tell my parents/Family
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The first thing I would do is call my boyfriend (he's away at college). Then probably his mom first and then my mom. Parents are a great source for advice and information.
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I'd deffinately tell my boyfriend first, becoust I know he'd be very supportive. Then I'd tell my mom. We're very close, so I know she'd be very worried and upset but she wouldn't yell or anything. My dad - well, that's another story.......

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first i would tell my suspicion to my friends and then go and get the test and readminister it acouple times, and then go and tell the father then SOMEWAY tell our parents (not a good thing!) lol, i am in one of those predicaments at the moment where i dunno if i am or not, so we'll wait and see..
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Leni
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My sister most likely. She lives nearby.

Not that I have risk of getting pregnant right now... no boyfriend... unless it's something I can't control, which I don't want to think about

Then I'd probably tell my friend Stephany, coz she would support me when telling the father.

Then the father and my parents.

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I'd definately tell the father of the baby but there is noway i could tell my parents or my family. my life would end and so would my boyfriends. they are very strict wen it comes sex before marriage and it would kill my mother tho find out if i ever was...... so basically i'd probaly end the pregnacy if it ever happened i know it sounds bad but i don't think i could handle a child.

Luckily i have'nt fallen pregnant as we are very careful but theres still that risk.


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The local priest, to let him know a miracle has taken place.

No, seriously, I'd probably let my girlfriend know, she'd more than likely be interested. lol

and then the rents and all my friends after a while. Just to be safe. I'd probably leave it for about three months if i could keep it in. But knowing myself I'd be shouting it from the rooftops. lol


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I would tell my friend first because i'm a lot closer to most of my best friends than i am my mom (unforetunately)

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i would say if i had to only pick between mom and friends i would say probably either or i could tell cus i can tell my mom anything!she was the first to find out with my first when i was only 15!
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i'd tell the father first then my bestfriend
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I would probably tell the babies father first, he should along with you be able to tell everyone else about the good news.
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Friend cuz i no i can always trust my bestfriend 2 keep a secret then the father then wen i work up the guts the family


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hey,i would tell the father of the baby then somehow get it to both of our parents!

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well i would tell the father if i thought i was pregnant then my two best friends alexander and tom cos i know all three of them would get me through it together. then if i was definately pregnant i would tell mum so she could help me figur out what to do
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The first person I told was my closest friend then she helped me to get the strength to tell my mom who was wanna the first few to know

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I would tell my boyfriend, cry a TON and then tell my mom..
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For the fact being, I've been through two pregnancies and I've told my parents first, I'd tell my friends first. My mom isn't the supportive type.lovelyluvella, for the record, friends aren't always the person
they appear to be. You said they'll be supportive of you. Don't be to sure of that.
I though the same thing but once my friends found out I was going to have a baby, they dropped me like a bad habit. With both of my pregnancies. I'n sayong it's going to happen to you, I'm just saying be careful.

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Well, first I would call the Vatican, as a miricle would have had to occur. Is that enough to qualify for sainthood?
Really, it would be my mother. Definately. Then an abortion. I might or might not tell the father of the fetus. If I thought that he might tell me to keep the fetus, or berate me for getting pregant or getting the abortion, then I would not tell him.

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For the fact being, I've been through two pregnancies and I've told my parents first, I'd tell my friends first. My mom isn't the supportive type.lovelyluvella, for the record, friends aren't always the person
they appear to be. You said they'll be supportive of you. Don't be to sure of that.
I though the same thing but once my friends found out I was going to have a baby, they dropped me like a bad habit. With both of my pregnancies. I'n sayong it's going to happen to you, I'm just saying be careful.

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candi0724 it may be slightly unfair of you to tell luvlyluvella that her friends may not be what they seem. she knows them and if they are already helping her through the situation it isnt entirely fair to judge. i know i wouldnt think it fair if you told me that my best friends may not help me through my situation...
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It may not seem fair, but it is a good point to bring up. When I got pregnant, even the friends I'd had for years and trusted with everything kind of disappeared. I have one friend left from that point in time, and she still only really hangs out with me when my kid's not around. It's not that uncommon, either; most first-time moms find they lose their old friends, and gain new child-friendly friends instead.
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i think i would tell my friends first,then the father,and last i would tell my parents i donno how but i would even if they kill me...

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Out of all these replies, I've only seen one or two who would tell their mothers first. That's too bad. I would tell my mother absolutely as soon as I could--whether I was happy with the pregnancy or not. She would be the one to help me the most if I was in trouble, and the one who would be the happiest for me if I wanted the pregnancy.

Of course, my wonderful boyfriend would also be on my "tell right away" list.

But, quite honestly--and I'm 21, folks--I wouldn't be able to wait until I got on the phone with my mom.


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probably my one of my teachers
i'm really close with her and she was the first person i told when i thought i was pergnant a few years ago

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