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tiff tiff
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Here's my question to all females.

If you happened to get pregnant who would you tell first tell.
your mother or friend and why.


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The father.
After that, definitely family.

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Probably my roommates at school first--they'd probably come with me to get the test and such. I (heart) social support.

Then, the father.

Then, somehow, my parents.

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Well...since I am in that fix right now. I'd tell my friends, because I know they'd support me no matter what. I have no intention of ever telling the father (I'm not sure if I am yet), and then I'd somehow tell my parents. The only reason I wouldn't go to my parents first is because I know how big of a dissapointment it would be to them!
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lovelyluvella, if you aren't sure whether you are pregnant or not, take a test! You can do this from two weeks after you had intercourse. You probably knew that already, but if you are pregnant (and you know for sure) you can look at your options and decide what to do next. I'm glad you have supportive friends, and there is a pregnancy and parenting section here at Scarleteen that you might find helpful. But first things first, eh? Take the test. Good luck

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I would definetly tell my best friend first because I can tell her anything and she always supports me with anything that I do.

Then I would tell the father.

And when I got the courage (how ever long that would take!) I would tell my parents.


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my husband, because all hell would break loose, then i'd have to see a doctor about counselling & ending the pregnancy.

i'd both be unreasonably angry with him for healing from his vasectomy & also desperately needing his support.

after him, i'd probaby talk to my local friends about it... if nothing else, they'd be told because leaving the country (and getting the leave for my husband to come with) would be a little hard to miss since most of them work together...

i doubt i'd ever tell my parents at all, not really any of their business.


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The father.
Then we'd work out how to break it to our families.

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definately, the dad would find out first.
after that, i think i'd confide in my best friend, and get her and the dad to help me figure out how to break the news to my parents.

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I would tell my husband then we would decide when to tell the news to our families. Then we would tell our friends.
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The father, definetely. Then his parents, because they'd be easier than mine, but I guess I'd have to tell mine very very soon after.
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I'd tell the father first, both because he has to know and because he's one of the greatest emotional supports in my life. Then I'd tell my mom and my sister, but not my dad, because he would be so disappointed. I would tell my closest girlfriends but that's it; I wouldn't want people to gossip too much.

Then I would have to figure out what to do.


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I'm going to move this over to "Pregnancy and Parenting", as I think it would fit better there .
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When I was 16 I got pregnant and I told the father and a couple of my friends. It was quite the eye opening experience...the things you learn about people. As soon as I told the father the result of my pregnacy test he lowered the boom on me. He informs me of how I couldnt take care of a child because I suffered from depression and sighed that he would just have to take custody.

My friends werent much better...they had no problem talking about something so private with anyone. They knew I was getting picked on at school so this just made things worse.

I was so stressed out at their reactions that I couldnt imagine what my parents would so I didnt tell them. I didnt get prenatal care and continued to take medications not knowing about the risk they could cause a fetus. I also took to physically abusing myself. I miscarried at the end of the first trimester. That was several years ago and I know soo much more.

I'd still tell the father first and based on what action we decided to take I would then tell friends and family.


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i'd tell the father, and then i'd tell my sister.
it would take some courage to tell the rest of my family. best to go with someone you know isn't really going to get mad at you, or think less of you.

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I'd tell my therapist first and try and work out the rest from there...joking...but in all seriousness I would tell my best friend first because she would probably know something was up and then I'd tell the father, then some how work up the nerve to break it to my family once the father and i had time to talk


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definitely the father. i'd figure he had the biggest stake in all of this besides me.

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Well, when it happened to me, the first person I called was my best friend, who promptly told me to do another test. I did another test, and called my aunt, so I could tell an 'adult'. My aunt comforted me, and told me to go to a doctor. Once I had the pregnancy confirmed with a blood test, I told the father. I didn't tell him earlier, cause I didn't want to freak him out for no reason. Then much, much, much later I told my parents, then my siblings, and then his parents, and so on.
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every time i have been pregnant i have told the father first.

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I believe I would tell my friend first because she's always been one for good advice and I know she'd help me figure out how to present it to my parents

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The father would be the first to know because he would be there with me while I took the home preg test.

After that I think that we would tell his parents first ... then some how break it to mine.

Then we would have to decide what we were going to do.


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I would not have to tell the father, because he would be there with me to find out the results of any such test.

Then, my regular doctor.

Next, his best friend and my best friend.

After that, we would hold a meeting and tell both sets of parents together.


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i think i would tell my berst friend first because i dont want someone who will tell me "oh you are so stupid how did you do this"
i just want someon who will hug me and say rite aid has great bottle sales

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I would tell my wonderful fiance. Then the WHOLE WORLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (I really cant wait to be someones mommy!!!!)
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I personally would tell the dad first (that would be Isaiah anyway)... then we would eventually tell our 'rents, and our close friends.

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i would say a friend because it is a lot harder to come out to your family and tell them without other moral support as well
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I'd tell my sister just for support, then I'd tell my boyfriend but I wouldn't tell him that my sister knows then I'd call my dad while he calls his parents, then I'd call my other sisters while he calls his grandmother.....We'd probably just relish in the moment anyway for a while and then tell them later. Hed be pretty happy.
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First, I would take a pregnancy test to make sure I was or not.

Then, I'd tell the father.

After that, I would tell my family

Lastly, I'd tell my best friend b/c I can tell her anything and I know she'll give me good advice on what to do.
**But just b/c she's my BFF doesn't mean she HAS to come first. It's the father, family, and then friends no matter what.


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I would definately tell the father of the baby first. After that I would probably tell my friends. My parents I would tell very last because instead of helping they would probably just start saying really idotic things.

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the first time i told the father then my best friend then my mom, i let her tell my dad. the second time i told my husband first then my daughter.
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I would definately tell the father first, and then go from there. The two of us, if everything was alright, would tell each set of parents together.


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i'd either tell the father of the child or my friend first because there first reaction wouldn't be to yell and they'd comfort you and they'd help you tell your parents
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I'd tell my best friend first for emotional support, then the father, then my family...theoretically, that is.
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I would tell my Pa becuz i feel hed jess understand betta.....latina gansta my ma would say ..(lolz)
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Well in my situation, it would be a happy occasion....
So, I'd tell my bf (who will be my husband by then) and then I'd call my mom.

My mom and I are very very close, so she would definitely be the first one I told.


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