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dixiestarlette
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I just got referred to this board because I really need some help. I am about 4 weeks pregnant and my boyriend and I, together, decided to have an abortion. I am 17 with plans to attend college next fall, and he is 19 already supporting his ex-girlfriend who is about 2 months pregnant. I feel like it is the right thing to do for us, and for the child in question because we both know that we would be unable to provide it a good life. I am having the abortion on a saturday, and i was wondering if the pain afterwards would be withstandable, in other words, can I function around my parents the next day or will I be in insane cramps? And if i cramp, will pain killers help at all? My parents do not know about it, and I have Saturday and Sunday both "tied up" so they will not know about it, but I wondered about the pain I will feel afterwards. Is it as bad as the nurse at the clinic says? She said I will be lying in the floor curled up in pain because of it, or will it just be very instense cramps like I have when I am on my period? I am having an anasthesia abortion if that matters. PLEASE help me, I am very scared! Thank you so much!
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It really tends to vary from person to person, but I'm not sure why the nurse told you that, because being "curled up in pain" is not usually what goes down. For most people, the cramping tends to be similar to period cramps, sometimes slightly more severe.

In my experience, you can do a few things to alleviate that pain and shorten it.

Having a local aneasthetic rather than a general often speeds recovery time, for instance. Something like ibuprofen certainly can and will help with any cramping, as can a hot water bottle, and plain old rest.

Do make sure that SOME adult close to you knows you've had an abortion, please. It's important for your safety, should the worst happen, for instance, and you start to hemhorrage and need someone to get you to the ER.

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Thanks. That really makes me feel better. I plan on being put to sleep and my boyfriends mom knows about what's going on, so I have the adult taken care of. Thanks!
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(That's what I meant in terms of anesthesia. It's worth considering NOT being put to sleep. for several reasons, including pain reduction in healing.)
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If I am left awake, would the pain not increase because I could feel it? Or would they numb it? And would I be able to function the next day if I wasn't put to sleep? Thanks!
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http://www.infoforhealth.org/pr/l10/l10chap4_3.shtml

There's a good page which addresses pain management for the procedure, as well as some pros and cons of local vs. general.

It's written for abortion providers rather than patients, but it's easy to understand.


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The pain during a local anesthetic is pretty identical to menstrual cramps, and it is incredibly short, just a couple minutes at a max.

NOT being put to sleep would leave you feeling better the next day, not worse. Being put to sleep, or sedation, tends to have side effects such as migraine, nausea, and a feeling of dragginess that a local does not create.


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So the pain would be more like having ANY sort of outpatient surgery done after the anasthetic then? I handle anesthetics pretty well, I have had to be put to sleep for other procedures before so if the pain is all in the nausea and headache, then I should be ok. I'm more concerned with the pain 'down there'.
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What I'm saying is this: no matter what you do, you are likely to have some heavy cramping. That's just how it goes, but really, it is likely to be totally tolerable and okay.

But sometimes, patients find that sedation tends to increase that pain later, due to the body being taxed by the sedation and its other side effects. For instance, if you've ever had the flu AND your period, you've likely experienced that cramps tend to feel worse then than usual.

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If it's at all helpful, I've had an abortion on just a local, and I'm very glad that's what I did. Not only was the pain just kind of like a hard pinching for a small bit, I was glad to be awake so I could be aware of what was going on. The benefit to that as well is that your doctor can best determine how you are during and after immediately.


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One more question...If you do stay awake,do they numb it at all?
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That'd be the local anesthetic I keep referring to.

Check out the article I gave you the link to, eh?


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Thanks! I will!
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A really informative website on abortion... http://www.prochoice.org/
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