I have about 30 articles on this together, but would really like an answer combined in a simple way that may have something included that the articles don't.
When I found out I was pregnant (I'm 9 weeks now), I kind of expected that other people in the house would quit smoking, or at least make the house we share non-smoking, especially seeing as Spring is here and it's warm enough to smoke outside.
I live with my family, my boyfriend, and a mutual friend of ours. Everyone except myself and my boyfriend are smokers.
I even went and bought a 20 dollar ashtray that has a carbon filter on top and sucks smoke out of the air for when you're not smoking, just holding the smoke in the ashtray. They only use it if I'm upstairs, and every other time I come up it's smoky and hazy all through the entire house. What's worse is with my morning sickness, the smell of cigarettes makes me physically ill every time.
The house is *always* full of cigarette smoke, and even pot smoke, which I've ALWAYS been against and hated. Everyone knows how I feel about it but are being selfish.
I think the reason they are being selfish is because they don't fully understand the risks of what they're doing and what harm it can have on my baby to live in a constantly smoky house, and that second hand smoke is just as bad to a developing baby (and to an asthmatic mother) as if I smoked a pack a day myself.
It's gotten to the point where I'm about ready to tell my father, that if he's not going to sacrifice for my and my child's health, and he keeps refusing to take my pregnancy seriously, then he will have no part in it and I will move out. His first grandchild will be nothing to him because even after birth I refuse to take my baby to a smoke-filled cave.
He's made a half-a***d attempt at quitting, but always makes excuses as to why he's not even really trying and then gets mad at me for trying to change him and says he can do whatever he wants because he's the "adult"
I'm hoping that printing out this message and whatever response I get from it, will make him reconsider what he's doing, and force him to realize that it's not all about him right now. Everyone else in the house has already agreed to smoke outside and make the house a non-smoking house but no one will start until my father does.