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jessica161986
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hi my name is jessica and i am new here!!I am a teen mother(16)of a1 baby girl and she is 15weeks,,will be 4mos.dec.20th,,,i had her augest 20 2002!!!Me and her father are still together we been dating 2 1/2 yrs now!!This was an unplanned pregnancy too!!but it turned out to be great..i don't regret her,,,even though it was amistake,,she is worth it!!i was very scared at first,,about haven a baby,,i was 15 when i got pregnant,,and i just turned 16 this yr.of may 29!!i was scared about labor,,everything,,but now its ok!but very hard!!i am glad to have my mom and dad and my b/f parents there to support us!! how having A BABY CHANGED MY LIFE IS THAT I DON'T HAVE MOST OF THE FRIENDS I USE TO I DON'T HANG OUT AS MUCH,,ME AND MY B/F STILL GO OUT AND GO LIKE ON DATE LIKE DINNER AND AMOVIE AND STUFF BECAUSE ARE PARENTS WILL BABYSITT BUT THATS ABOUT IT I DON'T GO OUT WITH MY FRIENDS NO MORE!!UR A VERY BUSY PERSON after having ababy no time for nothin...but its all ok,,i am happy my b/f stuck with me instead of ditched me like most guys!!!but are there any teen mothers out there????and do u like being a teen mom???
jessica

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Heather
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Welcome to the boards.

Just for your information, I've found your posts tremendously difficult to read, and thus, to understand. It'd be appreciated if you made an effort to use proper grammar and punctuation and some paragraph breaks henceforth. We ask all users poost in standard English so that we can all understand each other best.

Thanks!

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CONFUSSED
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hey jessica,
i just found out that i am pregnant and after reading your post it kinda helped me stay calm. I am 17 years old and me and my bf have been together for a year and 1/2 now. This was an unexpected pregnancy and i am a litte scared. I've always wanted a child but i never expected that i would be a mother at the age of seventeen. I don't know how to tell me parents or what to say, do you have any tips because my mom and dad are kinda strict about that stuff. Another thing i wanted to ask you was how did the nine months go? was it hard to do things while you were pregnant???
reply if you have time
darc

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Zanney
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quote:
Originally posted by CONFUSSED:
[B]I don't know how to tell me parents or what to say, do you have any tips because my mom and dad are kinda strict about that stuff.[B]

Hey confussed,

I don't know if you have told your parents by now, but if you are yet to, may I just suggest this ... I had a friend who never directly told her mother - she just let it get to her through the neighborhood grapevine. And that simple fact hurt that mother deeply. Unless you feel your life would be in grave danger, I suggest you sit down and just have a chat with your mom and tell her straight up. Although she is strict, I am sure she would appreciate it.

Sorry I can't really say more. If you head over to the boards at Girlmom.com (http://www.girlmom.com/phpBB/) as well, they have a whole thread on "Telling the 'Rents" you may find helpful.

Rose-Anne


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My conversation went something like this:

Me: "Bro can you go watch TV down stairs?"
Bro: "No"
Parents: "go"
Bro: "no"
Me: "fine, he is gonna find out sooner or later"
Me: "I am pregnant. IT wasn't planned, but it happened"
Dad: "David (my bro) get down stairs NOW!" I can honestly say I was scared out of my tree, cause my dad was not happy
Once my brother went downstairs, things went a lot better. They were (surprisingly) super supportive, even commenting that it must have been hard keeping this in, ect... I was shocked, but glad to have their support. I would definetly say my parents handled this like a pro!

I was scared out of my tree to tell them. My mom has got some strong opinions on babies before marriage. Tell your parents, you would be surprised at how supportive they are!


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CONFUSSED
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THanks for the advice. No i haven't told he yet. I do want to tell them both but my boyfriend thinks it might be better if we tell both set of parents together in the same room. Do you have any advice for that??? Do you have any advice on what the pregnancy is gonna be like? I am really scared
thanks for all your help
darc

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VASpider
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Might as well jump in with both feet, then.

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I do want to tell them both but my boyfriend thinks it might be better if we tell both set of parents together in the same room. Do you have any advice for that???

Well, nobody can really answer that except for you: only you and your boyfriend know your parents at all. I had a really hard time telling my parents, but my husband's father was no real trouble at all, and I was 23 when I had my son, and married. Ask yourself this: will it be easier to get everything out of the way at once, or will it be better to handle the situation in such a way that you won't (potentially, at least) end up with two sets of parents yelling at you at once? You have to sit down and weigh that one out with your knowledge and your boyfriend's knowledge of your respective parents. I personally would not wanted to have stared down all of the parents at once, but I don't know yours, obviously.

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Do you have any advice on what the pregnancy is gonna be like? I am really scared

The best person to give you advice about what the pregnancy will be like is, of course, your doctor or midwife. That being said, the book I found most helpful was What To Expect When You're Expecting. The book I found least helpful was The Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy. The latter is very negative at points and scared me quite a bit when I was pregnant.

As far as specific questions, well, fire away. As a random piece of advice: the best thing anyone told me when I was first pregnant was 'Carnation Instant Breakfast with protein powder added in.' When I couldn't keep anything else down, that made sure I was getting something into my stomach that contained vitamins and minerals and such.


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