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karebare123
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recently I had sex with a guy and he was really drunk. this enabled him to totaly get "hard" so i was wondering if there is still pre~sperm persent? He did not finish and he was only in and out acouple of times. to make this matter worst, i had just messed with my ex two days before and we had sex and he used a condom(i am on birth control right now but i havent been faithful to it~so i dont trust it right now) and i feel that i could be pregnant. it has been around two weeks now and i took a test the other day and it was negative,but i really feel i might be. I will take another test soon the make sure. i stopped taking the pills for about 3 days now and spoce to get my period in about a week. for some reason i feel that my ex is the one that would be the cause of pregancy if one occured, dont ask why but it is this major gut feeling, i dont know if the condom broke but the bed was a little damp (and to tell the truth it may not have been from me if you know what i mean). Which one do you think has the higher risk of gettion me pregant? Also do you know how l-o-n-g not how soon it could take to know by a test? thanks
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Heather
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Yes, there could still be pre-ejaculate.

Once you have a missed or late period, you can be sure of the results of a home pregnancy test. It takes mere minutes to see the results. As far as which scenario posts the higher risk, it is impossible to say because 1) you say you do not know if the condom broke or tore in the first case, 2) you say you have been taking your pills erratically (which, btw, means you should basically consider them ineffective) and 3) we do not know when -- or if, given the pill -- you ovulate and are most fertile.

More importantly for everyone involved is your STD and STI risks. That isn't to say pregnancy is not important, but in people under 22, statistically, far MORE of you transmit or contract STDs or STIs than those who become pregnant.

So, don't blow off that testing, by many means, as you had no protection form that whatsoever in the last incident. I'd suggest you see your GYN as soon as possible for a full screening.

I'd also suggest you take some time to think about all of this: are you ready for it? And when I say that I mean, can you practice both safer sex and responsible birth control every time? If not, it may just be more than you can handle right now, and it's generally safe to say most sex isn't worth getting an STD/STI or acceidental pregnancy for.

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