Hey there, in about three months im going to become and aunty and i was just wondering what i do... im uncertain about my place in the whole thing. my mum is kind of telling me i shouldn't be too involved but when i think of my aunts and uncles theyve basically always been there for me.. i dont know. just asking. thank u Claire
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I think that you should be involved with you prospective nephew/niece just as much as you and the prospective parents want you to be. from your perspective, you will gain a lot of knowledge about the wants and needs of an infant/child and of the responsibilities of parenthood without the total commitment of a parent. The child will gain a close adult friend who is not a parent. This can be very valuable to him/her as the child grows. Being an aunt is a great priviledge. Don't hesitate to embrace it!
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I'm an "honorary" auntie to my best friend's baby, and I love it. I see her (the baby, and usually her parents) about twice a week and we romp on the floor and hug and giggle and play "I'm gonna getcha!" (me and the baby, that is...her parents just look on in amusement.) She's almost a year old now and I haven't been this close to a baby since I was 6 and my sister was born, so I'm having the time of my life.
I agree with Bobo that you should be as involved as you and the parents are comfortable with. One thing to remember, though, is that the parents should have final say in just about everything, from whether the baby can have some Cheerios to when it's baby's bedtime. It's important for them to be the authority figures, and it's good for them and the baby to know that you respect the way they are raising their child.
quote:Originally posted by Lady Moonlight: One thing to remember, though, is that the parents should have final say in just about everything, from whether the baby can have some Cheerios to when it's baby's bedtime. It's important for them to be the authority figures, and it's good for them and the baby to know that you respect the way they are raising their child.
I cannot agree more on this -- it's extremely frustrating when aunts/uncles/grandparents/friends/strangers in the supermarket try to make parenting decisions for the child.
But it's wonderful when said people support the parents' decisions. Congratulations!
yeah, i'm an aunty, and an honorary aunty to a few babies. because i don't live near any of them, i only get to dote on the occasional visit and send gifts (gives me an excuse to shop at FAO Schwartz). but i look after the kids when asked to do so, and i definitely let the parents be parents.
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