Some background info - I've never had a boyfriend, and in the last two years, I've been attempting to learn how to masturbate and have an orgasm, but nothing seems to be working.
About two years ago, I purchased a clitoral massager - it felt pleasant, but no building sensation to orgasm. I would get bored and eventually stop.
Earlier this year, I bought a vibrator - again it felt pleasant vaginally and when applied to clitoris, but no building sensation. Was not able to locate G-Spot.
Now, I have recently bought a vibrator with clitoral stimulation - and once again, nothing.
I am at the point where I am genuinely concerned that there is medically wrong with my clitoris, especially since it's supposedly easier to orgasm with it for women. Who would I talk to about an issue like this - my doctor, a gynecologist, a specialist? Overall, I'm just frustrated that I'm 23, and have never had an orgasm or been able to figure out masturbation - its really demoralizing.
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When you're using vibrators of any kind (or masturbating in general), are you only doing so when you're already feeling aroused? That's going to make it much more likely for a vibrator or other source of stimulation to feel good, and more than just pleasant.
Keep in mind, too, that there are plenty of people who enjoy clitoral stimulation but who don't reach orgasm through vibrator use. They are great for many folks, but not everyone with a clitoris prefers that kind of stimulation; others might prefer to use their hands or provide stimulation in other ways. And there are even people with clitorises who prefer other methods of sexual stimulation entirely.
One of the biggest arousal- and orgasm-killers is pressure, either from a partner or from yourself. If you can try to approach masturbation only when you're feeling relaxed and aroused, and can be as patient as possible with yourself, I think that'll help.
You could mention this to a GP or gynecologist if you want, but it sounds like you do have clitoral sensation; I don't think this is a medical issue. Sometimes it does just take a while to find out what feels best during solo or partnered sex.
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