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hottie123
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So this is the story. Back in July I went through a month-long UTI that was finally cured with Septra. Cut to know, about 6 months later and about 2 weeks ago I started having frequent urination again. I thought it was due to anxiety, but a week later it hadn't gone away so I went to the urologist. He tested for everything urological and found nothing wrong: no infection, nothing in blood work, nothing in sonogram. Basically nothing wrong with my kidneys or bladder. I've now been referred to my gynecologist and I'm terrified. I've been reading online about how it may be ovarian cancer and it scares me so much. It's strange because there's no pain, just the feeling of having a full bladder, going to the bathroom and then relief. About 1 to 2 hours later it happens again. I wonder if I could've hurt something since I started doing ab specific work outs a week before this happened. I have an appointment with my gynecologist on Monday but I needed someone to talk to because I'm so scared. I'm too afraid to even have sex with my boyfriend this weekend because it could make it worse.

I just need to get all these feelings of my chest... [Frown]

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This is definitely a scary thing you're going through, and sounds pretty physically uncomfortable too. What kind of support do you have for going through this?

As scary as it is to go through tests and wait for answers, I'm really glad to hear you're getting this problem looked into.

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Not much. My boyfriend doesn't seem to understand how much this scares me and neither does my mother, she keeps saying everything will be fine and it's probably some sort of vaginal infection.
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I've tried to distract myself, but all I keep thinking is that I might die from this or that'll never be able to have children.
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I don't know if I should just go to the hospital to see if they can figure it out, I'm sure I'll have a nervous breakdown if I have to wait until Monday....
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Well whatever it is, your doctor obviously didn't think it was an immediate threat to your well-being, or else he or she wouldn't have you waiting until Monday.

As Robin said this is certainly pretty darn scary. Good luck with this!

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I haven't really talked to my gynecologist, I just called to make an appointment as soon as possible and Monday was the closest they had available.
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The point is that no one would likely just refer someone out, rather than get them emergency care, if they suspected they had a serious, life-threatening illness.

If the healthcare provider you saw thought you needed to go to the ER, they would have sent you there, I assure you.

You're really leaping to the furthest-flung possibility here, one that is highly unlikely, especially for a young person. So, I'd wait until Monday and try to relax, but if you truly feel like you are going to have a breakdown about this, then you might also want to see if you can't get some mental healthcare soon, or in the interim, okay?

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Just to let you know I went to my gynecologist today, she did a pelvic, PAP and intra-vaginal sonogram. Everything is fine as far as she can tell, so we don't know what the cause is. She did find what she thinks is a small cyst on one of my breasts, one I hadn't noticed before when I do self-checks. She said it's probably nothing to worry about and sent me to get a sonomamogram done, so I'm kind of nervous about that now...
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Did you tell this doctor about the level of anxiety you were having about your health?

That really is important: having strong, persistent anxiety and fear like you're voicing here and have before is often itself a condition that needs evaluating and treating.

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I did. I'm not typically nervous about my health, I'm actually quite easy going. But when a doctor starts telling me it might be something serious or they can't really figure out what's going on, then I get really anxious. I've been seeing a psychologist on campus for a while to deal with some other issues and I've told her about my anxiety, but so far she doesn't think it's anything serious enough to need medication. Mostly I practice meditation and relaxation techniques.
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How have the meditation techniques been working for you? Anxiety is tough to deal with, and can get tougher when the stress level is higher (as in when there is something going on you don't have immediate answers to).

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They've been working, particularly for sleeping which is what I had the most trouble with. I practice breathing, listen to soothing music and take natural supplements like orange flower water that helps with relaxation right before bed.
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So now it's a matter of keeping the anxiety under control while you get your health concerns investigated. We talked above about what kind of support you're getting around this. I think you indicated it wasn't very much. What kind of support do you get around your anxiety in general?

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My mom doesn't help very much. She think anxiety is something that can be easily controlled. Like, she doesn't understand how hard it is to go to sleep sometimes, she's just like: "It's easy, you close your eyes and go to sleep." So I just don't tell her when I'm feeling very anxious. My boyfriend is more helpful, he helps me calm down with massages or just by making smile and relax.
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Do you have any literature that you can give to your mother to explain to her that anxiety that she may feel in her day and anxiety that someone with an anxiety disorder may feel is very different? Have you had a conversation with her in which you explain that these feelings really aren't something you can just turn off with a flick of a switch?

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