Ok I have been wondering these things for a while now and I finally hot up the courage to ask them. My first question is is it normal to have reddened skin around the vaginal opening an the vulva. My second question is very emnarassing but I'm going to ask it anyway...my first sexual encounter with trying to avheive "orgasm" I accidentally peed myself like I heard that it is supposed to feel like you need to pee so I kept going and as mentioned before I peed myself. This has caused me problems. Whenever I masturbate I build myself to that point then stop which causes pain in my clitoris after doing this a few times. I also never let a sexual partner get me close to orgasm because I am scared I am going to pee on them. Is this normal and is there anyway to stop this? Sorry that was actually three questions
-------------------- Thanks so much! Becca Posts: 136 | From: Baltimore, MD | Registered: Oct 2010
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As per your first question; yes, it's perfectly common for vulvas to be red, brown, black, purplish or any colour in a very wide range - no matter what the rest of a person's skin color is, there is a high chance that their vulva will be a completly different color.
Have you checked out the pictures of other people's vulvas on the Scarleteen blog yet? It gives a great picture of how wide vulva variation really is:
Just to warn you, just in case you aren't comfortable, this link contains a picture of a real naked vulva. Blink's vulva is redder than the rest of hir skin. Here's the link:
For your second question, did you urinate before engaging in any kind of sex? In other words, was your bladder empty? If you use the bathroom before sex, you shouldn't need to urinate again during sex, and if you do feel that need, if you have been drinking lots of water, it's a good plan to interupt sex to empty your bladder to be comfortable during sex.
If, however, your bladder was empty and it wasn't like the usual need to pee, or only a small amount of liquid; what you experienced may have been female ejaculation, which is pretty common, and doesn't need to be fixed. Here's more on that:
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