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mia*
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Here goes...

so me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2yrs and in the last few months stuffs gotten sexual.

weve never had sex (well not really)
but we played round alot which i found really nice (things like oral an touching and ofcourse kissing and cuddling)

and hes never tried to pressure me into anythng and we talk bout everything

what we liked what we didnt.

we have a good relationship in all areas
and i love him very much

but a few nights ago he asked me if i wanted to try sex and and i said yes

this was after ALOT of foreplay and i was very wet

We are both virgins

So he put the condom on and asked again are you sure ? its ok if you dont want to? Are you ready? ect .. And I said yes yes yes and I meant it .

But when he went to slide it in it just wouldnt go in .. Even though i was relaxed ..

Then it did a lil (only the very tip) And i winced so he stopped . I said its okay its gunna hurt . he said are you sure ? i said yes. And we tried again but it wouldnt go in . So we stopped ..

Now Im confused what can I do for next time?
And y would it not go in??

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mia*
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oops sorry im new i didnt mean to post in this topic .. sorry

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JBM18
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If u were nervous tht could cause it because it can tense up ur muscles and trust me when u get mre relaxed it's easier to get in but if tht doesn't wrk it could be from ur hymen which could be too thick and if tht is the case go c a gynecologist

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Heather
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Were you two trying this in only one position or at only one angle?

Using extra lubricant?

Did he maintain his erection throughout?

When all the other things you had going on are -- you're very aroused and relaxed, you're trying gradually -- those are usually the issues at hand as to why entry doesn't "work."

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