So this is just something I've wondered for a few years:
I've heard guys complain about girls having vaginas so tight they couldn't fit a finger in.
Well, it's easy to fit a finger in mine even when I'm not at all turned on.
Also, I've only been to the gyno once (bad I know) but when I went in this weird exchange took place, where she warned me something (the speculum?) might be uncomfortable, and then when she inserted she said "oh! slid right in!" (which was kind of embarassing, but also made me wonder -does that mean I'm a little wider than some women?)
I haven't had a child, but there must be some variation naturally, right? So is it "average" to have no problem inserting a finger even when the vagina is "closed"?
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That's right, there's natural variation - and from what I'm hearing you say, you're actually having less trouble with things like the speculum. So, unless you had some kind of specific concern about your vagina being a little wider than what might be average, it isn't something to worry about.
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Just to be clear, when the vagina feels "tight," it's not usually about anatomical differences. It's about someone not being very relaxed, being nervous, holding tension in those muscles.
For example, someone having a partner trying to force fingers into their vagina, or someone who feels nervous or scared about that? Their muscles are most likely to tense up, which makes the vaginal opening less flexible.
So, this isn't about vaginal canals being wider or narrower. It's about how relaxed someone is or isn't.
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Remember that the vagina is an amazing structure. It can stretch to allow the passage of a baby, and it collapses not to take up much space when not needed to.
The issue over being tight or loose is misrepresented because it varies for a person according to how relaxed, nervous, scared, aroused, etc. she is. So when guys may talk about girls' vaginas being too tight to get a finger in, that indicates that the girls were probably nervous or not aroused enough for the muscles to relax. On the other hand, the gyno warned you that it would probably hurt because most girls are very nervous at their first examinations, and she was surprised because you were relaxed enough so that wasn't a problem.
Personally I don't think you need to worry about being wider than average because the tightness or looseness is so dependent on variables of mood, and that isn't simply a matter of being aroused or not. Perhaps you just more comfortable than many girls.
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