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Hello all, new poster here...

I'm having my first pelvic exam at planned parenthood due to being on the shot and wanting to continue it. My problem is, I'm worried about my vaginal size. I can barely fit two fingers inside myself even if I'm totally relaxed. Do they have a smaller speculum they can use if I ask? Will they use one finger during the bimanual part of the exam if I request them to? And finally, will this exam change the size/shape of my vagina? I'm really worried about that because I'm a very petite person and I have low self esteem regarding my lady parts..
Thank you for your time [Smile]

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Where i live, the idea of having a pelvic exam or a pap smear purely to get birth control is considered ridiculous and quite appalling. I am of the opinion that how doctors touch your genitals (you entire body) is completely your choice. So, if you feel that you will not be comfortable, please feel free to discuss speculum size options with your doctor before you have the physical exam. It's your right.

The exam will not change your genitals at all. You may experience discomfort or pain (and i really advise you to speak up if you do), but your body will not be altered.

Would you like to talk about how you feel negatively towards your genitals?

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Just as a note, it is generally a good idea to start getting regular gynecological exams once you start being sexually active. If you started birth control for other reasons, or just to be prepared, and are not sexually active yet, you can bring that up with your doctor to see if they might be willing to postpone the exam.

But May Day is right: you absolutely get to speak up and discuss the exam with your doctor. Let them know it's your first exam, ask any questions you may have, and speak up during the exam if you experience pain or discomfort.

This article may help further: Your First Gynecologist Visit

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Thank you for the advice. As for feeling negative about them, I'm not entirely sure why. I am sexually active with my boyfriend of two years and he always tells me that everything is perfect down there. I don't know why I'm worried about them being different or my size changing. I know it happens naturally..
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