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dylan1990
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Hi,

I'm a lesbian that fools around with girls a lot. I have never had an orgasm but when I masturbate or a girl touches me down there if it feels really good then after a while I suddenly need to pee. Peeing beforehand doesn't make a difference, and often if I stop the activity to go pee, I don't really have to anymore. Is this ok? It keeps me from being able to continue whatever I am doing that feels good, but I don't know what to do about it. Girls sometimes get offended because I'm randomly stopping them in the middle of something kind of intimate and I'm too embarrassed to say its because I have to pee, because that will sort of ruin the mood.

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Heather
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You know, people have to stop any kind of sex sometimes for basic self-care, like going to the bathroom, adding lubricant, catching their breath, or shifting positions due to physical discomfort.

If you're with anyone who gets offended by that, it seems to me you're with someone who might not be so great to be with. Accepting and being cool about this kind of stuff, and knowing it's so no-big, is part of being sexual with other people in a real way, rather than, say, having someone put on a sexual performance.

Same goes for people accepting things like how our bodies work. If someone having a bladder and thinking about that is a buzzkill to a person, that suggests to me that maybe there's a maturity piece they're missing. Know what I mean?

That all said, if you have that feeling but know you don't have to urinate, you probably don't have to stop. Sometimes just having genital stimulation, especially certain kinds, can stimulate the nerve endings around the urinary opening or put pressure on our bladders or urethral sponges that can feel very similar to having to urinate when we don't have to go.

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helpmelearn14
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did you ever think of what if that feeling was an orgasm or what if they have a piss fetish

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Saffron Raymie
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helpmelearn, while some people do have fantasies involving urine, that's something that must be discussed before sex with a partner if it's going to be involved. That's about consent, as well as hygiene.

The word 'fetish' is about inanimate objects, like shoes or hairbrushes - rather than bodily functions like urine, semen etc.

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Ishamel
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Came here after googling this same problem - glad to hear I'm not the only one!

I don't think this can just be a matter of manual stimulation and all the nerves being close together. It's become so Pavlovian with me that sometimes the minute the boyfriend approaches me with that look in his eye I rush to the loo. If I don't get that it's inevitable later.

If it *is to do with stimulating nearby bladder nerves, then how is one expected to keep sexing?

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