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I have a mole (i like to call them beauty marks) on my labia and i am nervous to tell my mom about it. It is raised and NOT small.
Even though it doesn't bother me that much, I want it removed asap because I am scared guys will be disgusted or grossed out if I decide to get intimate with them.
I know gyn's can't remove moles only dermatologists can... but I am heisitant to go see one because looking "down there" isn't really what their job is if you know what I mean? I'm also scared it will hurt. But having a mole down there just gives me anxiety. Please helpp!!

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Why don't you start by seeing a gynecologist and asking them if they think it's worth consulting a dermatologist about? It's a gynecologist's job to examine your genitals, so it won't be quite as awkward, and you don't have to see your dermatologist unless it's necessary.

But also, mole's aren't gross. Everyone has them, and as long as they're not in any danger of being risky to our health, they're perfectly normal and common. And a guy who thinks that any part of you is "disgusting" or "gross" isn't someone who's ready to be intimate with anyone at all.

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Also, dermatologists do often examine genitals. They specialize in skin...and that means any part of the body that is covered in skin, including the genitals. For example, folks who have certain kinds of skin cancer need very close skin checks on a regular basis to make sure they don't have an problem areas. This means checking every part of the body, usually includes checking between all their fingers and toes and even on/around the genitals.

So I can assure you that any dermatologist will have seen and examined patient's genitals before and that it is part of their job. (I spent a couple of years working for a dermatologist and I can definitely say that we treated them in our practice.)

Per being worried about pain, any mole removal can be painful. However, with a skilled care provider who numbs you up properly, it should not be overly painful.

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I dont know if you have had a bad experience, or maybe your just worried, but I want to let you know that you dont have to change your body in order to be loved. Most guys are not going to care about a mole down there. The only thing you may be cautious of is getting it checked to be sure its not one of the sort that can become skin cancer. If its not somthing that will pose a health risk, then its a beauty mark in my oppinion. ALL women are diffrent, there is no need to make them all the same, infact I love that women are all diffrent, its what gives life flavor.

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If it makes you feel any better, I have a large mole on my labia also. It's probably the size of a dilated pupil, though not too raised or anything. I'll be honest, once I hit puberty and got hair down there, I'd completely forgotten I had it. Then a few years ago I decided to go "bald" and was unpleasantly surprised at the "new" discovery. But, it doesn't really bother me anymore, and it doesn't bother my current bf. I even forewarned him about it but he doesn't seem to mind it.

For now I'm just leaving it alone but if anything changes that makes me think it might be cancerous or something, I'll have it looked at. I know my Gynecologist would have seen it at my last appt. and she didn't say anything about it looking sketchy, so I guess it's ok... :/

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