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OliviaTheOlive
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I'm having a lot of trouble finding a therapist that's affordable and also open to alternative lifestyles. (LGBT, kink, childfree, polyamory, etc.)

I'm 22, not in school, and my job doesn't offer health insurance. I've seen two counselors who were both great with the payment stuff, but not so much with the actual therapy. (They both seemed to get tripped up over the non-traditional aspects of my life.)

I live in a decently-sized city -- not like NYC or L.A. or anything, but I feel like it shouldn't be this difficult to find a good therapist. Does anyone have any tips? I'm OK with discussing my exact location in private messages, if that helps.

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Heather
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We don't do PMs with users here, Olivia, but what we can do is have you email your zip code and help that way.

Or, if you can be a little more specific about what you're looking for, I can link you to the kinds of lists I'd look at for therapists if I had your zip code.

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OliviaTheOlive
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With the other therapists, both thought I had depression, and one thought I probably had generalized anxiety too. So treatment-wise, I don't think I require anything too special.

But I just felt really awkward with both of them when I had to explain things like the difference between being a submissive in the bedroom and having a submissive personality. I felt like they weren't really getting it, and they didn't do any research on it between our sessions. So it seemed like I was devoting too much of our time together to explaining pretty basic alt-lifestyle stuff, as opposed to talking about the alt-lifestyle stuff as it related to me personally.

These are the only therapists that I've ever seen, so I'm not sure if that kind of interaction is standard, but it would be cool to be able to talk to someone who already has some familiarity with things like BDSM and polyamory, so that I'm not completely blowing minds when I try to explain things like my sister's open relationship or that I like wear kitten ears while having sex.

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Heather
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Okay, so I hear you saying you need a kink-friendly therapist.

Have you tried this tool yet for that?

https://ncsfreedom.org/resources/kink-aware-professionals.html

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I hadn't heard of that before, and that's pretty much exactly what I'm looking for. Thank you, Heather! Now I just have to hunt someone down who can work within my budget.
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Great! It's a pretty excellent list, and kept nicely up to date.

Per budgets, just bear in mind that it always pays to ask people about flexibility with payment, and that plenty of therapists can and will be flexible, especially with young people and people who are not insured. So, ask with confidence and optimism!

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