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So, recently I posted about improving my health. I've been doing so by starting to take small steps in eating right and exercising. I've also gotten very into rock climbing and am trying to train for a half-marathon.

Now, let me give a bit of insight before I go into this. Recently my boyfriend just broke up with me - and in the mere week that we've been apart, I've realized my main mistake was that I didn't focus enough on myself, and honestly, in my opinion, didn't have enough of a life (no, really, I've thought this before). During the school year at college I'm very busy and active but during the summer I have less to do. I only have a few friends I will hang with (2-4) and they're all relatively far so I can't just be like, "Hey wanna go grab lunch?" which is the type of random plans I'd like to do. So, backtracking, I've been thinking that I want to do more, be more active, and have less idle time. Now maybe I'm just feeling like this because of the breakup but: 1) If I am, so what, because it's good for me anyway 2) When I envision me in the future, or in a more mature state, I'm always running around constantly busy.

So, I guess my question is, how do people stay so busy? I'm honestly puzzled sometimes. I work 4 days a week from 3-9pm (they won't let me work anymore than that), workout in the mornings, on days I have off I try and plan things with friends or I go climbing with my dad. Bu I still find myself with hours in the morning that could be filled. Hopefully upcoming I'll be volunteering at a local school but that'll only be for a month and then I still have all of August. How can I keep myself more busy while also making sure what I'm doing is kind of just developing who I am? I also am trying to think of ways to more easily develop more friends/find ways to hang with people more easily.

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How about reading books? If you've got a decent local library, you can get as many as you can read for free.

In terms of meeting more people to spend time with, volunteering is a good way to do that.

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You could substitute some of your morning workouts for group fitness, especially if there are groups outdoors; they're a lotta fun!
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I also want to maybe suggest a language change here.

Is this really about you needing to be a "better person?" You seem like a fine person to me. It sounds to me like this is more about you just working towards feeling happier, more independent, having a more well-rounded life and getting some more activity in your life.

Just always hate to see people framing themselves as in need of improvement per their character -- especially when that's not what they mean -- because I don't want any of you to walk around thinking you're crap people. [Smile]

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No, you're right Heather, thanks.

Well, I have been trying to keep myself busy. But the main thing that's driving me stir crazy is not seeing my friends. The last time I went out with a friend was over a week ago. The problem is that people are so far - my closest friend is a 30 minute drive. I don't have my license, and even if I did, I don't have a car, and my mom wouldn't let me drive alone for a while. I want to be able to just randomly ask people "Hey wanna grab lunch?" but I can't because they're so far and I don't know what to do about that. It's really frustrating.

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Maybe you should try planning a weekly "girl night". That way, you'd get to see each other every week and have something to do for a night. [Razz]
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