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kswagga1013
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Ok so,
I have been sexually active since I was 13, and I have performed oral sex a few times, i do everything else, but I dont let guys eat me out because I am so self conscious of my vag, im scared it might smell funny, or taste funny, or look funny that close up, It just seems really awkward, I really wanna do it, How can I relax??

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SnailShells
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I would advise getting used to yourself first; if you haven't seen your own vagina yet, get a compact mirror and look, and don't be afraid to go exploring down there. You also should remember that genitals--and human bodies in general--tend to have a smell, and vagina tends to smell and taste like vagina, just like penis tends to smell and taste like penis and not like cupcakes (it's all part of the experience [Razz] ).

Vagzilla! (Or, All Genitals Great and Small)

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/out_out_damn_smell

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EVivian
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If you're worried about the taste or smell, just take a shower shortly beforehand and use a dental dam. The latter will also help you reduce your risk of STD transmission as well (which is something you should keep in mind unless you and your partner are monogamous and have both been tested).
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Jill2000Plus
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Everybody's body, including their genitals, produce some smell and it would be pretty difficult for our genitals not to taste of anything, particularly when we are aroused, as they then produce fluids that come from inside our bodies, I agree with EVivian's advice, but would also like to reiterate that there's nothing bad about the way our genitals smell and taste, so long as they are healthy and washed daily (and there's no need to give them a vigorous scrubbing or douche them, indeed douching is completely unnecessary, or anything) there's no need to worry.

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Heather
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You might also want to bear in mind that as you already know from giving oral sex yourself, genitals DO have their own smell and taste. Penises really aren't that different from vulvas in this regard, nor are they any more or less likely to "look funny" up close and personal.

Sex isn't a show-and-tell, nor a beauty contest. if we expose our genitals to a sexual partner, it's not about us thinking they're so perfect, it's about trusting a partner to like our whole bodies and selves, and to have the maturity to approach our bodies as real and human, not as showpieces.

If your partners are open to trusting you in that way, it makes sense to consider trusting them in that way, too.

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cyndy2007
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Just let him do it. My b/f does it to me now and I wuz self-conscious at first, but it feels so good. I gave him oral and I enjoyed having it in my mouth, but then he wanted to spray it on my face which grossed me out. Anyway, take a shower, turn off the lights, lay back and think of something pleasant and let him go to work. Make sure he tongues your clit.
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Heather
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Hey, Cyndy?

It actually is not okay here at Scarleteen to tell a user to just do something they don't want to or don't feel ready for. While your experience may have been what it was, that does not mean hers was the same, nor that dictating she do what you do is appropriate.

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jenny1980
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Hi Kayla,

I wanted to comment here because, even though I'm in my 30's, it took me a LONG time to get used to the tastes and smells of sex. I always thought the same thing as you "I'm going to smell". However, being in a trusting relationship helped a lot. If you eat well, drink water, and wash daily (not douching as mentioned above, just gently wash) you will not smell bad. Really, the only time you will smell "bad" is if you have an infection, and the smell is your body telling you something is wrong. Other than that, you will smell like...well..YOU. We each have a different "smell." It's US, and if we are in a loving relationship your partner will LOVE that part of who you are to him.

I hope that makes sense.

Jenny

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Arisan
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You mentioned that you have given oral sex on a few occasions. I assume you enjoyed it, otherwise you probably wouldn't have done it again (and if you don't enjoy it, then you probably shouldn't do it again. Never do something to solely please your partner. Sex has two participants, and they should both be happy). Most guys feel the same way about oral sex that most girls do. They enjoy it, scents and all. You can also bet, that if a guy has tried give you oral sex, or has asked to, then they really want to do it. So have confidence in yourself. Guys are attracted to those parts of us. [Big Grin]

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