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Alfonso
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So I really really enjoy it when my girlfriend goes down on me. Everything feels really good, but it reaches a certain point sometimes when the feeling is almost too overwhelming and it doesn't feel as great and i have to ask her to stop. It's not because it hurts or anything, but because idk...it's like I'm being overstimulated and the sensation is lost and doesn't feel enjoyable any more. Subsequently, I've never cum when she goes down on me. However, the minute she starts touching me with her hand I have no problem cumming.

I'm just wondering if this has happened to anyone else, or if you've ever heard of it happening? If anyone has an explanation of why this is happening, that would be great, but I understand if the answer lies somewhere in the "you know your own body" range.

Really, any feedback would help me understand and cope with it. Thanks

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Heather
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This is one of those things which is going to tend to boil down to individual bodies.

By all means, I've heard some men voice what you are exactly: for some that it happens that way sometimes, for others only now and then. And for some men, orgasm is more likely to happen through manual sex for others, oral sex, and all in all men in general, especially when circumcised, often tend to need less subtle sensations (manual sex or intercourse tend to involve a tighter grip and more friction than oral sex) to reach orgasm.

No mater what, people really are very unique in this stuff -- and also tend to be fluid, this may change for you during your life -- so with anything like this, it is always okay. There's no one right way to reach orgasm, nor do all people reach orgasm from all activities, or all activities all the time.

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Alfonso
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Thank you for that info. It helps me [Smile]

One last clarification, what exactly do you mean when you say uncircumcised men tend to need less subtle sensations to reach orgasm?

Thanks again

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Heather
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My bad: I typoed. I meant circumcised.

Uncirc'd penises create their own friction with the foreskin, and thus, often men who are uncut will often be a bit more sensitive and can feel more with less friction, that's more subtle. There is still some room for variation here: this is not the case for all, and the division is more complex than just foreskin or not. But that tends to be one big factor.

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vixenchic42
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My guy is the same way, but it works out really great for us, because I like to finish up other ways [Wink]
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Alfonso
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Thanks for the input. It's comforting to know that other people experience the same sort of thing...
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SkystheLimit
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I know your pain dude, I'm the same way. I enjoy sex a lot more than oral. At first I thought I was weird or the girls I was with just didn't do it "the right way", but it's just that most of the time, I just get way too sensitive too soon. But intercourse makes me come easillyy so it's perfectly fine to me.

stick to what makes you feel good, eventually it won't even bother you man.

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HeyLife
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I'm female, and I actually know what you mean. I get close to orgasm sometimes, and think it's going to happen, and then suddenly it's exactly like you said--it's too overwhelming and not as good.

By the way, I can get my boyfriend to orgasm through oral, but not manual. So, everybody's different =)

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TheBexExpress
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Also a female, and like HeyLife, oral sex with me tends to lead to painful overstimulation rather than orgasms. Manual stimulation does the same. That's not all the time, for either of them, but enough to make a difference.

I am preorgasmic, so I guess I'm not really missing anything [Razz] Although since I can't have vaginal intercourse, the fact that oral and manual sex often have painful results is a bit of a bummer [Roll Eyes]

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