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Dot
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Every time I get intimate or remotely close to someone whether it's kissing or just plain ol' making out, I feel very sleepy and relaxed and feel I could just fall asleep then and there.
I don't understand if this is normal or not, is there something wrong with me?
I was under the impression kissing and stuff was supposed to make you 'wake up'? It doesn't really feel like that for me.
Any opinions or advice would help me heaps. THANKS!

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smokey
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I think I understand what you mean... let me know if I don't totally answer what you're after... it could just be a case of the warm and fuzzies where you feel content... I know that feeling always reminds me of warm milk because that's what would make me feel good going to bed as a child...

I know that my partner and I get quite tired and sleepy whenever we spend time together because usually we're generally very on the go and when we finally relax together we're beat... our solution to this was to get some intimate activities happening at times when we're less tired... like when we wake up in the morning (even if that means waking up a little earlier)... or earlier in the afternoon before dinner. Because while our time might be limited earlier in the day, it's of a higher quality than what we'd get from each other at night [Smile]

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I can't tell from your question if your sleepiness bothers you (does it?) or if you're just noticing it and wondering if it's abnormal. I think it's totally normal and I don't think anythings wrong with you.

I agree with smokey. Sometimes being close to someone you like can just be really relaxing and soothing.

Another thought: When I was younger especially, sleepiness was a common anxiety reaction for me. If I had a fight with my parents or was in an uncomfortable sexual situation, I'd just sort of go into hibernation mode. I'm not saying that's what I think it is for you; I'm just throwing that out there.

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quote:
I can't tell from your question if your sleepiness bothers you (does it?) or if you're just noticing it and wondering if it's abnormal.
I was just noticing it and was wondering if it was abnormal. [Smile]

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When I was younger especially, sleepiness was a common anxiety reaction for me. If I had a fight with my parents or was in an uncomfortable sexual situation, I'd just sort of go into hibernation mode. I'm not saying that's what I think it is for you; I'm just throwing that out there.
Actually, it's funny you mention that. Whenever I've got a speech to do or a presentation of some time. Something which stresses me out I get really tired. It's sounds like what you've got.

However, I think it might be more of the... warm milk idea. I just randomly feel drowsy... not sure if it's from nerves or not. I don't' think it is.

Thanks for both your replies. You've been very helpful. [Smile]

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feefiefofemme
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The same thing happens to me sometimes, and mostly I feel like it's just a nice relaxed, carefree, enjoying-the-moment kind of feeling. If you were suddenly falling asleep every time you got as much as a peck on the lips (kind of a reverse sleeping beauty effect), then there might be a problem. But as is, I think that sleepy feeling personally makes me feel all warm and safe and fuzzy. If it's the same for you, my advice is to enjoy it.
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tbelle
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You know, I get the same thing sometimes too. I think it may be just that you are content and that all your muscles are relaxing, and your nerves calm down a lot. Being intimate with someone can have a kind of meditative or hypnotic effect. I think this may even be what people mean by "love drunk".

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Amandah
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This happens to me also. I just feel way to tired to do anything! Like I feel lazy. It's odd.

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