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Jase Watson
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Hey guys. I usually am helping answer, but need an answer myself now.

My girlfriend and I have been sexually active since around Feb. of this year. I notice every time I penetrate her, she winces a little, and asks me to go slow. Today she told me that the reason why is because she feels like something is ripping down there. Now, I'm not exaggerating my penis size, I'm an average sized 16 year old. She says that there is a piece of skin right next to her vaginal entrance that rips, and the next day if she dabs it with paper, she get's small but noticeable blood spots. What could this be? She's not 100% sure, but I had her look at a diagram and she dosen't think it's her labia minora. Any help? Greatly appreciate it. Thanks!

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What other sexual activities do you two engage in before you get to intercourse? Do you make sure your partner is totally relaxed and aroused? Do you make sure to only have penetrative sex when she's 110% ready and wanting it? Do you use additional lube? Do you go slowly and stop when she's experiencing any pain or discomfort?

It's not unusual for a woman to experience some bleeding if she's not fully aroused, not using enough lube, or if the partner's being a bit rough. If that happens, you'll just want to hold off on intercourse a few days to give her time to heal.

But obviously, that doesn't need to happen if you take care of everything that I mentioned above. If you do do all that, and she still experiences pain and bleeding, she'll want to make an appointment with her gyn to get checked out.

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Jase Watson
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I do everything you mention, probably 115% [Smile] . She says that just when I start to penetrate, she feels a little pain, and that I have to go further inside before it actually feels good, then it dosen't hurt. It's just when I enter. She says the "rip" heals, but then the next time we try, which by the way, there's about 2-3 weeks between each time, and only 5 times since Feb., it rips again. Can you think of anything based off of that? Or should she still make an appointment. And do you know what skin she's talking about. I have a pretty good background of diagrams etc. and I can't understand what she's talking about. Is that skin an abnormality? It's kind of hard to do that without arising any suspicion with only her dad that she lives with [Roll Eyes] .

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I do everything you mention, probably 115% [Smile] . She says that just when I start to penetrate, she feels a little pain, and that I have to go further inside before it actually feels good, then it dosen't hurt. It's just when I enter. She says the "rip" heals, but then the next time we try, which by the way, there's about 2-3 weeks between each time, and only 5 times since Feb., it rips again. Can you think of anything based off of that? Or should she still make an appointment. And do you know what skin she's talking about. I have a pretty good background of diagrams etc. and I can't understand what she's talking about. Is that skin an abnormality? It's kind of hard to do that without arising any suspicion with only her dad that she lives with [Roll Eyes] .

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If all of that is taken care of, then yes, I would suggest an appointment with her gyn. It's hard for us, too, to picture what someone else is talking about in terms of their own anatomy, and talking to a gyn who's right there and can see what she's talking about would probably be a big help.

She also doesn't need to worry about her father: If she's menstruating, it's time to start annual gyn check-ups anyway. This is recommended for all women, regardless of whether they're sexually active. So there's no need to disclose this to her father if she doesn't want to at this point.

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Jase Watson
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Thank you September! [Smile] I'll let her know. Sorry for the double post, the boards didn't show my reply till this morning. Take care!

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Just to also make sure we're all clear, it's entirely possible this bleeding is just due to her still having a partial hymen than is wearing away some with sexual activity.

Mind, since you two are sexually active, it's time for BOTH of you to start getting sexual healthcare anyway, so no sense in not checking while she's doing her half of that, especially since if this is due to any kind of infection, she'll need that treated.

But it sounds to me, from your description, and if everything else is all in place, that this being about her hymen is a very likely possibility.

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She uses tampons, and she says that it's not quite in, it's more just right at the edge. But I am going to ask her, and when there's time maybe look to see if I can tell. I'll tell her to ask to go to the docs. Thanks everyone!

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Well, the hymen is right at the edge: when it's present, fully or partially, it's tethered just underneath the vaginal opening.

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