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Hello. So yesterday I was watching the news with my boyfriend about a story of a girl who was 18 and got breast implants who had died on the operating table from complications. My boyfriend, who I absolutely love to death, said "Why do girls care about how big their breast size is?" And I said blame it on society. Though, this led to another discussion. We starting talking about breast size and I am a 38D and I can sometimes wear DD. My boyfriend then asked me, "Would you ever consider a breast reduction?" And I said I don't know. But then he said he's not a fan of big breasts. Though all his past girlfriends had big chests. He said he is just not a "breast guy". I was offended and hurt. But he said I was fine and that I can't help my chest size. But now I feel very insecure and not sexy to him. I mean I have to be honest, though I do like my chest, there are downfalls to it being too big. I admire girls who are comfortable with their sizes. I guess when you hear from the man you love that he's not admirable about a part of your body...it's not the best feeling in the world. I mean I guess it's refreshing to hear that a guy is not obsessed with the anatomy of a woman's breast but their actually personality. Though, doesn't every girl want to be desired? What do you think? Am I overreacting?
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You know, not everyone is equally interested in all body parts. We all have our favourite spots, and the spots where we could go either way. My partner isn't a 'breast guy', either: this doesn't mean that he doesn't like my boobs, it just means that it's not the part of my body that turns him on the most.
So cut your boyfriend some slack. He may not have meant this the way it came across to you. But since you do feel offended and hurt, I suggest you bring this topic up again and tell him how his remarks made you feel, and ask him to rephrase what he was trying to say.
And I don't think you're over-reacting. In the society we live in, it's hard not to feel insecure about one body part or another. Just try to not let this affect how you view yourself (good on you for liking your breasts ).
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You are absolutely right! My boyfriend is a great human being and I appreciate his honesty. He tells me I am beautiful and that he loves me everyday. And that's what really matters. I think I just overreacted. And the more I think about it, I think it's wonderful to see how "un-shallow" he is and how he doesn't like to objectify women. I will let him know that I felt a bit offended but allow him to explain what he really means. Thanks for replying back. I feel way better!
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Whilst it is good to be celebrated for your body, I really hope your boyfriend wasn't suggesting that he thinks you should have a breast reduction. It's up to the individual to make that decision, and I'd hate to think that he was influencing you to consider having a breast reduction when you are happy with your breasts. I'm not too sure in what way the comment was intended, but I don't think it's right for people's partners (or anyone, really) to suggest that someone else have something about their body changed when it's not bothering the person themself, just to try and satisfy them (the partner/ other person).
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(Lastonestanding, those kinds of comments are not welcome here. We have several users who are dealing with body image issues and comments like those are not helpful. In fact, they are hurtful. Please review the user guidelines which you agreed to when you signed up for this site.)
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