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I'm 18, have small-to-average sized breasts, and HATE bras. Hate hate hate. Too large, too small, uncomfortable, underwire pokes me, too tight, too loose, etc. Admittedly, I'm going with cheap off-the-rack stuff mostly, but I have a minuscule clothes budget and don't really want to spend the money to be fitted/buy custom bras, etc.

Whenever I'm really vexed, I tend to give up on bras all together and just wear layers (to avoid distracting people with nipples)--my sister thinks this is crazy, but it's never given me any problem. Should I be worried about Is there some particularly important health function that bras fulfill? Again, I'm lucky to have small enough breasts that they're not really a problem during normal activity; although a size-too-small sports bra works for running and such.

Finally, a rather different question: I'm interested in appearing more genderqueer/androgynous, at least some of the time. Any information on breast binding--making it healthy, comfortable, etc--would be much appreciated. Since my breasts are fairly small, I usually use a couple of sportsbras and loose clothing, but I'd be interested in making it more effective.

What is straight? A line can be straight, or a street, but the human heart, oh, no, it's curved like a road through mountains.

~Tennessee Williams, A Streetcar Named Desire, 1947

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Ugh, I know what you mean. I HATE bras.
I have average size breasts, I suppose, for a 15-yr-old but they always seem so huge to me. I don't like having boobs at all, and I usually can conceal them with a tight sports bra and a tight shirt and a looser shirt over top, but that tends to get annoying in the summer when I wish I was a guy and could get away with wearing no shirt.

I also wanna learn more about breast binding... but my breasts are probably in the process of still growing because it hurts if I wear something too tight over my nipples... is that normal?

Anyway, I don't think bras are immensely important for your boobs to stay healthy... at least I don't think so...

Sorry I'm not much of a help. I wanna hang around for the answer to the breast binding question.

"think outside the box, collapse the box, and take a f***ing sharp knife to it."
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I don't wear a bra, except maybe once or twice a year if I'm going somewhere fancy. I, like you, had heard horror stories of "Drooping boobs" etc when I Was younger, but there is no validity to that statement. Now, I do know that if you wear a bra alot, you're body becomes "dependent" on it, and your muscles will devellop a bit differently than if you go "naturally". Thus, switching from no-bra to bra or bra to no-bra can cause some back pain, etc initially. I hate bras. I just go without!


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Snail, bras are strictly a matter of taste and personal preference. Not wearing one will not cause your breasts to droop: that happens if you gain and lose weight, for example due to pregnancy and breastfeeding, not because you did or didn't wear a bra. If your breasts droop later in life, they may look less droopy while you wear a bra, but otherwise the bra does nothing for it.

If you do want to wear a bra, shop around and try on some different styles, and see if you can find a department store with a free bra fitting service to make sure you know the correct size. I've found that "convertible" bra styles (the ones with removable straps so they can be worn strapless) are often better made than other bras in the same price range. Also, the shape of the cups and place where the straps attach suits my body shape.

Otherwise, don't be shy about going braless. Men's tank tops, found in the underwear department, are cheap and comfortable as a layer to keep your nipples concealed. [Smile]

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Thank you so much, you're all awesome. [Big Grin]

Imogen: Yes, I know EXACTLY what you mean! When all the boys peel off their shirts in summer I go "Lord, don't I wish I could do that!" And in my very limited experience, that super-sensitivity goes away. When I was around 15-16 I would scream if something hit my chest on bad days, but now it's nothing like that at all. Thank god. haha

Narwhal & pyro: Thanks a bunch! My fears are assuaged, and I'll be going braless and guiltless at least some of the time in the future. The men's tank top idea is a super-great one.

*waits patiently on the breast-binding question* Probably a slightly unusual question, I didn't see it on the first 5 or so pages of the forum topics.

What is straight? A line can be straight, or a street, but the human heart, oh, no, it's curved like a road through mountains.

~Tennessee Williams, A Streetcar Named Desire, 1947

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I stopped wearing bras about six months ago (age 20). They're so uncomfortable--I just hate having something pinching me right below my breasts. I guess there are bras out there that would be comfortable but I don't think I'd feel like wearing even an exceptionally comfortable bra. I have pretty small breasts so I don't need the support, really. Your breasts sagging is a normal part of aging, I think. It's unavoidable and certainly not worth being uncomfortable for the majority of your life by wearing an article of clothing you just don't like. I wear tank tops in place of bras, basically just to keep my nipples from showing through my shirts. It's good.

I want to look more androgynous as well, although this time of year I'm distracted by pleated skirts and tight sweaters. Oh well, at least 2/3 of my head is still shaved.

Sorry I can't be of any help on the breast-binding question. I can only recall coming across talk of it at random--I'm not sure where to find it when I really do want to read about it! I will look around when I'm less sleep-deprived and report my findings, though.

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