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Hi there. I have a problem with a fetish. I haven't been able to admit it to anyone, especially my boyfriend, because I am too embarassed. I've had this fetish since early childhood. When I masturbate and think of this fetish, and I reach a really great orgasim. The thing is, I can't seem to orgasim without thinking of my fetish!

I was wondering if there is a way to "get rid" of fetishes. I am not interested in keeping these "problem fantasies" any longer. (Too embarassing!!) ...can anyone help me?

Thanks so much in advance.

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Fantasies, especially sexual fantasies, are nothing to be embarassed about or concerned - if they're a more troubling one, it's still worth considering that they're fantasies, and not realities. There's nothing that says you have to share them with anyone if you're embarassed, and if it's primarily an aspect of solo sex (masturbation) then no need for your boyfriend to know either.

If you feel like being a little more specific, we might be able to help further but as it stands, fantasies are a part of everyone's sex life.

(And just a wee note, fetishes are objects/acts that people often *must* have as a part of their sexual gratification, like shoes or ping pong paddles, or what have you, while fantasies tend to reside more in the head. Again, I'm not sure which applies to you more without more info, but thought you might like to know the distinction.)

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Originally posted by Rini:
I was wondering if there is a way to "get rid" of fetishes. I am not interested in keeping these "problem fantasies" any longer. (Too embarassing!!) ...can anyone help me?

Generally no, though in extreme cases intensive therapy may help you control them. Unless the fetish is dangerous to yourself or others, then its generally psychologically healthier to accept it, and find sympathetic partners who will enjoy it with you.

If you'd said what the fetish was, I'd be able to give you more specific advice. You can always PM me if it's too embarrassing for public posting.


SSC is a good idea for vanilla people too!

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PM's are disabled for everyone's safety. If it's too embarassing to post here, you'll have to save it for your therapist.

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