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I'm 16 years old and 5'1', 112 pounds, with C [almost D] cup breasts.

The women I work with are constantly making a comment about how thin I am. They aren't trying to make me feel bad - they want to be this thin. They are 20 or 30 years OLDER then me but they stll always have to bring up my weight.

I went to a deli and I was given free cheese because I "look like I am hungry and not fed". That is just as rude as calling someone fat. It's very offensive. I have never in my life had an issue with food or disorders or anything. I am eat so much is crazy and I do not gain any weight. It's just the way my body works right now.

Or I'm asked why my boobs are so big since I am thin, or why I have wide hips when I am 112 pounds (which is stupid to ask). or "How are you so thin?!"

When will people just LEAVE ME ALONE about my body? Whether it is a postive or negative comment lately I just do not wanna hear it. compliments are great, but I never hear anyone say "Wow, you've got a great figure" Rather then "You're skinny".

Thing is, I'm happy with my body. I wouldn't mind gaining some weight, actually.

Give me your thoughts on weight issues! =]

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I know what you mean about this... I've often been asked, especially when I was studying ballet at a professional school, questions like 'so, are you anorexic?' and when I responded with a 'no', the interogator would move on to 'ah, so are you bullimic then?' and so on and so forth. I'm 5'8", 120 pounds, and I don't think I look like I have an eating disorder, so those kinds of comments bother me a bit.

Personally, I don't find the comments just about being thin particularly offensive (even though they do get rather annoying.) It's more the assumption that just because someone is skinny, they have some sort of body image problems.

Although, I do have to admit to being somewhat guilty of making comments to people about them being so thin... For example the other day when we were changing for track, I just so happened to look at my friend from the side and she looked quite disturbingly thin. So, I told her that she was skinny. I only said anything because I am already concerned about her well-being and I know that she has some confidence issues, which come out when she does drugs, etc. A few hours later, at my dance class, I looked at myself from the side and I looked exactly the same as my friend did! Just goes to show how one's perception of other peoples' bodies and one's own body are often quite distorted.

I also wish that being thin wasn't the only and most desireable body type. It'd be really great if everybody could just be happy with what they've got, but I guess that is unlikely to happen until we all get more educated and comfortable with all sorts of bodies. (I do disagree with blaming the media for that, however- I and nobody that I know has ever really compared their bodies to anything they know is unattainable for them)

I'm happy with my body too, and also wouldn't mind gaining some weight... [Smile] I guess even the most content of us are never quite satisfied.

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"I also wish that being thin wasn't the only and most desireable body type"

I don't think this /is/ the case, really. I mean, certainly most people we see in media are thinner than the average person on the street. But there are other types of media (porn, etc.) where the body type shown is very different (generally, very curvy), but the women there still always look much too similar in particular ways.

I do think different people have preferences for different body types. But yes, I agree that it would be nice if everyone could be happy with what they've got (and had an easier time finding many people including partners who would appreciate them for who they are as well).

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Ah, kay: allow me to clarify what I meant about the "...being thin..." part. By that I meant that most people want to loose weight on parts of their bodies like their legs, stomachs, arms, thus making them thinner, but retain weight in their breasts and hips, hence the more or less unattainable aspect of the perceived "ideal" body type. I suppose I should've been more clear about that.

What I also meant to convey was that more often, one will find that people (I guess mostly this would apply to females, as most of the males I know would like to gain some weight in muscle) who are dissatisfied with their bodies want to loose weight as opposed to gain it.

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I think you'd be pretty surprised, actually.

Certainly, the diet industry and the current fashion of thinness has made weight-loss WAY more pervasive than ever.

But when you're talking about all women and you're talking globally, there is SO much typical grass-is-greener stuff everywhere that what most people with body image issues want/aspire to is just to look different than they are.

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