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Huni
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I just had sex with my boyfriend about a week ago and I noticed that I had some kind of scratches by my vagina and my anus. I think it comes from him playing around with his fingers and then he tried to have anal sex with me but I couldn't take the pain. Anyway I made him wait a while before we had sex again and then today when we had sex he notices that there was something there that has never been there before. There was something hanging out of me. It was right about my vaginal opening but it was below my clitoris. So what is it??? I think it starts with a "V" but why is it there and swollen when it has never done that before??????

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I am not quite sure what you're describing here. Since nobody else has replied, maybe I'm not the only one. Starts with a "V"? Do you mean "vulva"? That would refer to the whole outer genitals of a female -labia, clitoris, etc., and that is perfectly normal. There really is nothing that should just "appear" after first-time sex, so maybe you were just as you say swollen, or maybe there are things there he just never noticed before. Do you know your own body very well?

At any rate, in case there is more going on, I'd suggest you see a doctor (gynocologist). Also see my answer to your other post. You really need to ditch this guy; clearly he's harming you and not respecting you and there's nothing you can do to change his behavior but you should get yourself out of that situation.

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Huni
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quote:
Originally posted by iheartdc:
I am not quite sure what you're describing here. Since nobody else has replied, maybe I'm not the only one. Starts with a "V"? Do you mean "vulva"? That would refer to the whole outer genitals of a female -labia, clitoris, etc., and that is perfectly normal. There really is nothing that should just "appear" after first-time sex, so maybe you were just as you say swollen, or maybe there are things there he just never noticed before. Do you know your own body very well?

At any rate, in case there is more going on, I'd suggest you see a doctor (gynocologist). Also see my answer to your other post. You really need to ditch this guy; clearly he's harming you and not respecting you and there's nothing you can do to change his behavior but you should get yourself out of that situation.

I do know my body very well and I have never noticed that there before either. I think it was because we hadn't had sex it a while but he thinks it is something else. I think it is called a VESTIBULE or something like that. I think it is around were you pee at. Not sure though. I do plan to go to the gyno soon. I just wanted to hear what other people thought. [Confused]

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wobblyheadedjane
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The vestibule isn't something tangible - a vestibule is a space or opening, and anatomically, the vestibule is the space between your labia minora. It can't dangle out because it isn't anything.

It sounds like remnants of your hymen, which can sometimes (especially if forcibly torn, as in the case of this guy forcing himself on you sexually) cause parts of the hymen to change the way you look or feel down there, with bits hanging and the like. That said, iheartdc is right in that a gyno will be able to tell you for sure and in that this guy is bad news.

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Huni
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He does. I know he does I just don't know how to handle him.

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Hohum
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What do you mean in that you don't know how to handle him?

If he's too foreceful you need to tell him he needs to take it slower with you, be more gentle, etc. Sex should be enjoyable for the both of you, not just one of you.

And if you're fully aroused, wet, and it's still uncomfortable for you, and he's going easy on you, remember to use extra lube!

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FoxOr, FYI, this is a bit of an old post. It turned out Huni's situation was pretty serious, and it was addressed much more fully in another thread.
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