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AB
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Um.. I know this sounds really dumb.. But I don't know who else to ask.
This site is a great resource, as my parents are strict christians and I am not able to ask them anything about sex.
Anyway, I'm 14 years old and just got my period for the first time last friday. I got it at school, and I was wearing a pantyliner, and it was light so it wasn't a big deal.
For my birthday, one of my best friends gave me a backpack full of girl stuff, cuz she knows how my parents are. She gave me tampons, panty liners, make-up, shaving cream, etc and a bunch of other stuff.
I didn't have an pads or anything, so on Saturday morning, I tried to put a tampon in... But it wouldn't go in. I don't know, I couldn't find any place to put it in, and I didn't know where to put it in, and I know this sounds really stupid.... But I couldn't find the opening of my vagina.
I survived with panty liners and changing my underwear frequently. Luckily, my period was light and only lasted 3 days.
But I don't know what I'm going to do when it starts again. [Frown]
I feel stupid, and I can't ask my mom cuz.... I just can't.
Please help.
Thanks for the totally awesome site.

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AB
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Hmm... I guess this board should've been titled 'Vagina Questions.'
Ah well.

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Imogen, I really would encourage you to talk to your mother about your period-- it is something that happens to every woman, and does not indicate sexual activity in the least, nor is there anything un-Christian about it by any interpretation of the Bible. She must be expecting you to get your period sometime, and is undoubtedly your best bet in terms of getting a supply of pads. If you feel that it's too difficult talking to her face to face, you could write her a note.

As for tampons-- a lot of girls have a great deal of difficulty inserting them the first time. What you have described here sounds very similar to my own first attempts to use tampons. When you don't have your period, try looking at your vulva with a makeup mirror, and locate your vagina that way. Learning how to use a tampon properly can take practice, and if it's uncomfortable for you right now, I'd really recommend just sticking with pads (this is also a good idea if your period is light, because tampons tend to suck all moisture from your vagina, not just blood-- if your flow is light, then your vagina can get too dry, leaving you more susceptible to infection, not to mention plain old discomfort).

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Thank you for replying so fast.
I really have to work on talking to my mom, but I live with my dad and I don't see her often.
I'm getting braces in November, and I went to the orthadontist(sp?) a month or two ago with my dad to fill out this stuff, and there was a question: "Have you starting menstuation yet?" and my dad just checked off yes without even asking me and I was too embarrassed to say I hadn't gotten it yet.
Well, I'm glad I got it now, but everytime I've ever tried to talk to my mom about this kind of stuff.. she just changes the subject. She really acts incredibly uncomfortable about anything like sex, period stuff, and anything else related.
My parents wouldn't even sign the form to let me into Sex Ed. x.x
They think that if I don't know anything about sex at all, then I'll never have it.
Well, my older sister is great, she's 21 and she has a 3 year old son; hence, she had a baby when she was 18 which didn't go by very well with my parents. But they still love her and accept her and everything.
I think I might talk to my older sister about this; she's the one who told me about this site, and I think she might be able to help me.
Thank you for answering my questions and everything! [Smile]

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Don't feel stupid. [Smile]

It took me three years of being on my period before I got up the nerve to learn how to insert a tampon. The vaginal openning is toward the back near the anus. Here's a diagram of the female organs (click on colored areas for explainations, etc) courtesy of Sex, Etc. Be sure that you insert the tampon correctly. IE, hold the tampon at an angle pointing toward your lower back, and make sure you've got it in all the way. You shouldn't feel any pain from insertion. Read the instructions on the tampon box thoroughly, as well.

I, too, found the whole process frustrating, as I couldn't find my opening, either. You just need to explore, so to speak. It's good to have a diagram, this way you can see what's there, and sort of examine to see what's what on your vagina. It'll make things easier.

Hope I helped you. I'm sorry if this is at all confusion.

[ 06-27-2006, 06:25 PM: Message edited by: Mathilde ]

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AB
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Thank you so much for your post, Mathilde.
I'm going to stick with pads for now; I'll go the drugstore or whatever to buy them.
Thank you for this site, Miz Scarlet, or whoever created it. [Smile]

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