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This is a question I have been thinking about a lot lately. At what point should be a girl considered a woman? After a girl gets her first period, it has been said she is officially a woman. There are girls in the 5th grade who have breasts and have started their period, but when all is said and done they are still a 5th grader. On the other hand, i am 14 but do not have breasts and pubic hair and I haven't started my period yet. When I look in the mirror, i see a little girl but on the inside i have the same thoughts as any other "young woman." So what makes a woman? Is it physical, mental, or both?
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I have always thought that it was when they started their period, but as you stated, somtimes it is very young.

This got me thinking and I would say it is more mental than physical. People mature at different rates and I would say it is there maturity that determines if they're a woman.

Some women who are 30 have little or no breasts, but that dosent mean that they are not a woman. Just as some 5th graders might have breasts, that dosent mean that they're more of a woman than any 30 year old.

All in all, I say being a woman depends on how mature you are. It sounds like you have matured faster on the inside than on the outside, so just give it some time, it'll catch up soon enough [Smile]

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fadingstar had a good point about it being about mental maturity. also, you could say that you're a woman when you turn 18 and become a legal adult. it really depends on personal definition.

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What really makes a woman is from really more of a social perspective than a physical one. It depends on people. Every one can have is or her own opinion about what a woman really is.

Just don't let anyone tell you that you are not a woman, if you think you are then it is true. There is no real definition for that. Everyone can have is own definition.

I can tell you some definition of a woman that people have.

First, becoming a woman can mean that your pubic hair and your breast have started to grow or that you have started having your period. It can also mean that you have had your first intercourse.

It really differs from one person to another. There's no better definition. It's up to you to define the term woman.

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Yeah. About the mental maturity thing, I wish the rest of the world would see it that way. People who meet me for the first time never believe I am 13! [Roll Eyes]

I was just thinking. Perhaps girls obssess about breast size so much because having a flat chest makes them feel like less of a woman? i feel that way sometimes...

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A woman is a woman whenever she decides to call herself that. Otherwise, she is whatever she personally wants to identify herself as.

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People believe that you are becoming a woman or a man when you have your first sign of puberty, whether it's your first period, breast growth, facial/pubic hair, etc. I believed that.

But then, i really considered myself really a true woman when i really changed completely. I felt at 17 when all of my shell was broken about myself, not so much physically but more of on the inside with my personality, and etc. I felt like I really loved myself, and I was able to share that with other people the same way, and really mature about a lot of things.

Of course, learning is a lifelong process and you also continue to blossom as you journey through as a person. It's always evolving.

Thus, people will define when they are a woman or men by their own beliefs. There's no right or wrong.


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