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Marcus
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I'm a little over 14 and have not started puberty yet. My penis is just a little over an inch and a half errect and the diameter of a roll of dimes. Is it possible to make a girl orgasm? I heard on of my stepsister talking and she said if it's not at least four inches she doesn't feel anything. Just wondering what girls prefer. How long and how thick.
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Honestly? Size does not matter. At all.

There are no nerve endings in the vaginal canal and very few women orgasm from penetrative sex alone, anyway.

Also, you're only 14, so relax and give it some time. You've still got a few years to go and your body will continue to change for at least another 6 years.

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There are no nerve endings in the vaginal canal

Just a little correction: there are some, but not that many (and most sensitivity is in the first couple of inches of the vagina).

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Marcus
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I'm really not worried about it. It's just a little embarassing seeing other boys my age with much larger packages.
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Thanks for the correction, logic_grrl. Don't wanna be giving false information.

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Marcus
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So what you are saying is that you would enoy it.
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Nope. What she was saying is that you have quite awhile to grow. Everybody matures at a different rate, so try not to be too embarassed about what you see on other guys. You'll catch up before too long. [Smile]
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Marcus
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Would it be possible for me to pop a girls cherry, I guess is what I'm getting at.
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You know, the thing is, if even your BODY isn't ready yet, it's pretty impossible for the rest of you to be ready, so it's probably a good idea for you to hold off for now.

Is intercourse possible with a penis that size? Yes.

But there are no "cherries" to pop, nor anything a penis has to "do" during first intercourse that is dependent on size.

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Marcus
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Would my you say my penis is average, above average or below average for 14?
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Marcus, I understand your concern relating to your body image. It can really suck to physically mature slower than everybody else.

What Miz Scarlet said is right on the dot. If your body is not physically ready for sex (puberty), it's a safe bet that the rest of you isn't, either.

If you're really concerned about the rate at which you're developing, talk it over with your doctor.

And really, it's unfair to yourself to judge your penis size before puberty has occured. Like has been said, you will catch up in no time.

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Marcus
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Don't most girls like to have a smaller penis their first time?
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It's impossible to make blanket statements about what 'most' girls might or might not like their first time.

Really, your best bet is to stop worrying about this one way or another. You've still got a bit of time before any of this become relevant in any way, and even then it's still up to the individual girl.

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Marcus, have you read the responses people have been giving you? Because they're full of advice and helpful info.

"Most girls" don't like anything in particular, since everyone is an individual. There are a number of women who aren't interested in penises at all. You're really worrying about something that isn't at all an issue, since size doesn't (or shouldn't matter) to any one, and you've yet to begin puberty. At this point, all you can do is chill out, learn to appreciate what you do have and wait for the hormones to start kicking in.

If you're not interested in taking the time to read everyone's responses fully, this thread will probably be locked. All the info you need is here, really. Accepting your body for how it is is up to you.

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Marcus
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I'm not going to have sex, I'm just curious. I'm really just tired of hiding the fact that I have not started and everywhere around me it's in my face that other have. I understant that girls start earlier than guys, but imagine waking up everday and seeing your younger stepsisters who have already developed breasts at 10. Not to mention girls my age who have enormous breasts while I remain a little boy. It does suck and I'm tired of hiding it. At this point I almost want people to know I have not started puberty yet rather than hiding it. I want to be able to take a shower at school and walk around naked without having to worry. I could really care less how small my penis is and who sees it anymore. I know eventually it will happen. It just stinks seeing it everday. Especially kids younger than me.
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It does suck when you see people around you reaching the "ideal" figure and you're not. But puberty is not a race. There's no prize for finishing first.

If anything, for many girls (like myself), there are negative consequenses for starting puberty early. When I was 12/13, I had 35/40-year-old men treating me like I was 25/26 because I looked so much older than I was. And in no way is a preteen girl prepared to ward off the advances of a man three times her age, nor should she have to.

And in like 5 years, it's not going to matter at all. Once high school's over and people go their separate ways, what you looked like/didn't look like when you were 14 is totally not going to affect your adult life.

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Marcus
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I hear what you are saying and I know there is not much I can do so just sit back and enjoy "the ride" But to me I would rather look like an adult than a child at 14. I have a cousin who is six that has a bigger penis than me. Not to mention how weird it is sitting around at lunch with my buddies making fun of girls with small tities. I feel I have to particiapate even though most the girls we are making fun of are most likely further developed than me. I just want to be naked and not worry what people will think or say.
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You know, you could just point out to your buddies that reducing a girl to the size of her breasts is a pretty scummy thing to do. Maybe they'll learn a thing or two about respect, and you won't have to feel embarrased.

And also, at 14, you still are a child, so there is absolutely nothing wrong with looking like one. There is really nothing you can do, other than sit back and wait. You'll hit puberty soon. Promise.

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Marcus
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I'm still a child because i'm 14 or because I have not started puberty? Most girls at 13 and 14 are considered young women. Is that because they have entered puberty? I'm tired of being a child
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Well, then it seems odd to me that you'd participate in making fun of women's bodies, since that's about as childish as it gets.

Boys mature more slowly than girls, in pretty much all respects, but absolutely sexually/physically. How about, then, working on aspects of emotional maturity you CAN nurture -- like not comparing penises, like not slagging women's bodies with your buddies -- while your body does whatever it is going to do?

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Marcus
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I hear what you are saying, but you make it seem as if girls don't particiapate in the same talk. I know if any of my stepsisters no matter how old they are were to see my privates I would never hear the end of thier jokes. I also know they would share the information with thier freinds. I know two wrongs don't make a right, but this I know is true
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Heather
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You are voicing concern that you do not want to be seen as a child.

This is why I was making a suggestion of changing up your behaviour by not acting childishly.

If a young woman came here and said what you did, I'd have given her the same advice.

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Furthermore, Marcus, you are simply making an assumption there-- whether or not that assumption would turn out to be correct or not, it absolutely does not justify making fun of OTHER women and girls because of their bodies.

Another thing to think about-- you do, I assume have the option of keeping your "privates" private-- you are unlikely to be in a situation where you have to reveal your genitals to others, particularly not to females. However, it's clear that you are not treating the females that you are making fun of as private human beings-- you evidently think that because you can make out something of their breast size through their clothes, their chests are fair game.

The vicious cycle of revenge that you are talking about also works both ways-- after all, if you feel that it is acceptable to make fun of a female's chest because you FEAR that she would make fun of your genitals, then by your logic, if she ever did get the opportunity, she might make fun of you out of revenge too. As Miz Scarlet said, that would be equally wrong, but the fact is that if you justify making fun of females by saying its some sort of revenge, you're just perpetuating the same nasty system.

If you show respect for the bodies and privacy of others, on the other hand, then you're contributing to a positive system. Indeed, if you do that, and the unlikely situation were to occur that a female was to make fun of your genitals you would have the well-founded retort, "I don't make fun of other people's bodies, and I really don't care about people who do."

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Marcus
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I could really care less who see's me naked anymore because there is not much I can do about it. Besides from talking to other kids my penis may not be huge, but an inch and a half is still pretty big!
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well marcus, if you're confident about your penis now, I think it's okay to close this thread now.

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