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Marquis_de_Carabas
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Do any other redheads find themselves being bullied for thier hair colour? in the UK it seems a massive problem. At first i thought it was just the area that i (have the misfortune0 to live in, but it seems to happen everywhere i go. I'm a redhead and frequently i've had people (kids younger than me, teenagers and adults) shout abuse at me in the streets, but most of all at school. It's always the same stuff, "ginger", "ging," "ginger pubes", "carrot-top" etc and although I'm used to it, it has really harmed my confidence. It's also worrying that young children are just as bad as the teenagers, so it's obviously not concentrated to one 'group'. But what I'm asking is, does this happen to other redheads in other countries or is it just this bizarre European thing? I mean, in France and Spain, when i;ve gone there, i got called a "pikey" about 14 times, on top of all of the usual insults. [Mad]

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Heather
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It's fairly universal. We're a rare breed. [Smile]

But if it's any consolation, it usually passes in time. In fact, for many redheads as they get older, you and your hair and freckles may wind up getting (sometimes unwanted) attention of the polar opposite to this.

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The grass is always greener... [Wink]

If it makes you feel any better, I always used to want to be a redhead (no doubt influenced in part by my youthful love of Anne of Green Gables). While I'm a big advocate of liking oneself regardless, I think you can easily rest assured that for every person who makes a cruel comment (and boy do some of them sound cruel) there's another who envies the hell out of you (and quite possibly the person commenting and the person envying are one and the same).

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To support Beppie's point, I have always thought redheaded females are beautiful, for instance. Queen Elizabeth 1st was a strawberry blonde, and it was considered one of her greatest assets, her hair that looked like a sunrise.
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Beppie
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Elizabeth I actually wore a wig for most of her life, because she was bald due to illness. Her greatest assest (even if she had had the best hairdo in Tudor England) was her brilliant, subtle mind.
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I've also always been envious of red hair. My natural color is platinum blonde (which doesn't even look natural on me!), and I spent several years trying to get rid of it. My attempts resulted in flaming red hair, and I'm loving it.

If it makes you feel any better, I got bullied for my hair as well. Comments like "nazi girl" and "aryan bitch" were pretty common when I was growing up. Ironically, there isn't a single German person in my entire family, and we've traced it back to the 13th century. My family would have been killed. We trace our roots back to some of the founders of the Underground Railroad, and we all have rather distinct Cherokee features (bone structure, eye shape, etc) that I don't believe would have been embraced in that time period.

The point is, yes, it hurts, but it's ignorance. Ignorant people aren't worth your time or attention.

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I suppose I was thinking physical asset. I don't think there's anything wrong with taking pride in physical assets, I just think there's something wrong with an attitude that there's shame in not being the cultural-ideal. But truly, people recorded being struck by Elizabeth's hair when she was young.
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Totally, Likewhoa, I think it's great to revel in our physical assests, whatever they are. [Smile] I do think though that a physical feature should not outshine something like a brilliant mind-- though I'm sure that you are right in that Elizabeth definitely had to deal with people who perceived her physical body as the most significant thing about her.

(Sorry to get off topic [Razz] )

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loudasthehelliwant
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Quite honestly, I find redheads EXTREMELY attractive. LOL.

And I always wanted to be one too. :-)

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I've ALWAYS wanted red hair. You always want what you can't have. For me, (a straight-as-a-board brunette), I always wanted flowy, loose red curls. :-)

What you have is rare, and COVETED! Embrace it! Usually, awful sneers are from those who are jealous, anyways! ;-)

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My partener is "red head" and i love it, as myself ive always wanted straight hair as my is curly as anything and spend hours straightenig it. You shouldnt let sniggers or rude comments get to you, its not worth it, they are just jealous

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My bloke has lovely strawberry blonde hair and everyone in our classes at school know it's only acceptable for me to call him ginge because i use it as an 'adorable' nickname as he so puts it. If anyone else calls him ginge he hates it. Also alot of my family have ginger, red, auburn, strawberry blonde hair and i myself have a slight reddish tint to my hair. I have three cousins and two half cousins with beautiful auburn hair and a the newest addition has the most gorgeous strawberry blonde hair ever.

So, yes, be proud of your red hair because when you're older people will love it!

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Thanks for all the replies. [Smile]
I think im learning to appreciate my hair..I went through a phase when the bullying was really bad and i hated it. Then I discovered pre-raphaelite artwork..kinda like the idea that redheads were the main muse of many famous artists in that period.
I was just curious to know whether it was only a problem for redheads in britain, or whether its a ''worldwide'' thing. Seems it is fairly so.
I also read somewhere on the internet that redheads are "dying out" as a hair colour, because its an ultra-recessive gene (or something sciencey) which is being more and more dominated by brown and blonde type genes, which are, i think, dominant. So now we're rare and endangered, mwaha.

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Heather
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You know, my also-redheaded partner once felt a lot crappier about his red hair.

...until he went bald. [Smile]

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