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I didnt know girls cum too. I never have. How will i know if i do? Whats it feel and look like?

another question. While having sex the guy i am with thinks when he cums then its over no more sex, but usually he comes so soon i cant even enjoy it much or i start to and then am left unsatisfied is their any way to make him last longer?

Is there such thing as being "gapped out" if you have sex enough will your vagina expand and stay that way, in time will it go back to normal?

[ 03-20-2006, 08:46 PM: Message edited by: Lindsay*Marie ]

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1) Some females do ejaculate, either related to orgasm, or not. It comes from the urethra, though its not urine. Typically it's a clear, mostly odourless liquid. It'll be pretty obvious if it happens, since there can be quite of a bit of it, and its different in appear/texture from normal vaginal lubrication.

2) This probably requires communication with your partner. There are plenty of sexual activities that can be done without an erection, so why does it have to stop there? Regardless of how long it takes him to ejaculate, many women do not get the same pleasure from intercourse as they do from other kind of stimulus, so communication is key in arranging a way in which you both enjoy, and are both satisfied.

3) Nope, that's a total myth. Vaginas naturally expand and lubricate when a woman is aroused, and that's the normal state. When someone brags about 'tightness' it's typically because a woman is not very aroused, or lubricated - it can actually be quite painful and uncomfortable. A vagina can expand to accomodate a child during childbirth and after a period of rest, that woman can continue to use tampons, because the elasticity of the vaginal walls are that awesome. So, no... there is no such thing as being 'gapped out', which is actually pretty offensive (just like other terms, like 'loose' or 'sloppy'.)

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for the second question i asked i guess i should give more information.. I did tell him it doesnt have to stop there but he thinks it does. We have talked about it and he said its just because we dont do it often enough but i dont want to have sex everyday on average 3-4 times a weekend seems like enough to me.
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Really, he's being unreponsive here, as well as evasive, and potentially even manipulative.

How about this: the NEXT time you're going to have sex, you say "Hey: remember this time, I want to try and have an orgasm, too. So, we can either focus on me first, so that you can just chill after YOU have an orgasm, since I'll already be good, or we can just keep going after you're done until I feel done, too."

And you know what, if he blows that off or is unwilling? Chances are you are with a partner who just isn't ready to really HAVE a partner, and think past his own needs and wants.

And if that ends up being the case? It's best to not be with that partner, either period, or until they become ready to remember there are two whole people who EACH have wants and needs involved.

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