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i know there are a bunch of posts about this but this is a big problem. i have a large, saggy labia and i want my boyfriend to finer me. Weve been going out for a littl bit now and i do eveyrhting for him and he does nothing for me. I want him to but im so embarassed and he keeps telling me theres nothing to be ashamed of. I also may have a yeast infection, but i dont want to tell anyone cause theyn they will see my other problem. What should i do? i dont wanna tell him.
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If no one else has ever seen your labia, how do you know this is a big problem? How do you know this is a problem at all?

As you're already aware, many women feel this way about their labia. You already know there are many normal variations of what labia should look like. What makes yours any different? What makes yours abnormal?

If you think you have a yeast infection, you really need to get this looked at and treated. It could be a yeast infection, which left untreated can get continually worse, or it could be something else, which can spread and cause havoc for your other reproductive organs. You really need to see your doctor. This would be a good time to ask your doctor about your labia.

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Labia come in all shapes and sizes. Really. Your labia are just fine.

Make a doctors appointment and have that yeast infection looked at, and make sure that's what it is. It could be something worse, and if left untreated can cause some real nasty problems, like infertility.

Have a look at some of our articles--I think they'll be a great help for you.

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to 12345
i persoanlly feel the same way about mine..and put off having my first exame till just a few weeks aago( im 21) because i feel that down thiere wasnt "right" and is "dsigusting" ive also never let a guy get downt here casue i think he'll be turned off.....

i had my first exam..and the internal and all..and after she was down she hadnt said mine are saggy two diffenrt sizes and hang down(i have to tuck them up to be comfertable) and i coyly asked if anythign down there.. looked wrong... she said no..and that if i was talking about my labia.. that it is NOTHING to worry about and its all just "variations of normal"..i wouldnt worry aobut it and if he loves you he wont either.. think of a mans penis..they dont all look the same..and come in all sorts of shapes sizes colors curves.. well so does your body....Hope this helps

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hey, thanks for replying. thanks to the poster who talked about going and who has the same problem, i feel a little better about it. but its just that i know its not normal or what a guy my age would be used to, who is not sexually experienced. like all of my friends are flat there and i know they dont have that problem. i just dont want to drive him away!
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But it is normal, as everyone else in this thread has attested. No two sets of labia are alike, and they range in size from small to large.

Have you actually seen your friends' labia? I'm guessing that they've all probably told you that they have small inner labia because they too suffer from the misconception that there is something "abnormal" or "ugly" about any inner labia that are not tiny and pink, and thus they tell you that they conform to this completely arbitrary standard (no doubt some of your friends could have labia like this, but probably not all of them).

As for your partner-- if your partner is the type of person who would be put off by a totally normal vulva, then he doesn't really deserve to be your partner. You deserve a partner who respects your body as it is. However, it does sound like you haven't actually asked your partner what he thinks yet-- so do that before you make any judgements about what he is likely to think.

Lastly, if you're not feeling comfortable with your body, and you don't feel up to having a frank conversation with your partner, then you probably aren't ready to be engaging in partnered sexual activity. Remember, we should never do anything with a partner that makes us feel uncomfortable.

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Honestly, I'm kind of concerned about this as well. I've examined my labia in mirrors standing up and lying down and they're saggy and lack any elasticity. In addition, each is a different size and completely covers up my urethra, clitoris, and vagina. You just CAN'T see anything and I'm wondering how a penis or finger would even make its way up there without the labia interfering. I've seen other vaginas and they look a hell of a lot more elastic than mine.
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The labia are really supposed to cover those bits: part of their job is to help keep bacteria from them.

And they don't "interfere," because like the clitoris, like the perineum, like the first couple inches of the vagina, they're sensory, ful of nerve endings. They are part of the vulva, and when sexual activities are in play, the labia ADD to sensation, are part of the whole deal. When/if one wants to do something with more direct or specific clitoral or vaginal interplay, one simpy moves the labia aside, which is nothing in any way complicated or tricky; when one is aroused and everything's engorged and slippery (again, arousal changes the geintal landscape almost as substantially in women as it does with men), it all works out pretty easily.

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Well, everyone has already posted that all kinds of labia are normal and natural. We can all keep saying it until we're blue in the face, but until you internalize it and do something to see yourself and all your body as beautiful, it's tough to hear what other people are saying. Check out some of the links above, there's a lot of good info on body health and self-esteem in them.

Also, if you're concerned about sexual activity, typically labia will look a little 'closed' or stuck together - they help keep dust and dirt out of the vagina that way. However, when someone gets aroused, increased blood flow to the area will help to 'open' them up, making things a little more accessible.

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What percentage of woman have large labia and clit
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There's no objective standard of "large," so it's really impossible to gauge these things in percentage terms. All labia and clitorises are different, no two women are identical, and size is only one possible variation. Women who have larger labia/clitorises than is usually portrayed in textbooks or much mainstream pornography are certainly not exceptions to the rule, however.
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