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Lindsay*Marie
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ok this is kind of embaressing but, I am sexually active and i like being that way but i just cant cum when i am with a guy he thinks i dont like it because i show no emotion and then there is no climax (cum from me :O) and its embarressing and has to be a major turn off for him, so i heard masturbating makes you enjoy it more, well i like it more then sex but i still dont get the satisfactory i am looking for..is it possible i just cant coem and another question i have never found my G-spot do all girls have one? Sorry if this is out of line
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DarkChild717
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Welcome to Scarleteen!

First, you have to understand that not all women can orgasm from sexual intercourse. Additonally, not all women orgasm from the same generic stimulous. We're all wired differently in that aspect.

You're correct, in that masturbation will help--it will help you discover what it is that pleases you, and you can then work with your partner to acheive orgasm if that's what you like.

Also keep in mind that orgasm is not the end-all goal of sexual activity. What about the communication, and companionship? That's integral to sexual enjoyment.

Have a look-see at some of articles. They'll help you quite a bit.

Orgasm and Sexual Response
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ScreamInEcstasy
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just enjoy the sex, as is. Also be more verbal during sex this will enhance HIS performace and make it better for you. remember- you dont have to orgasm to have good sex!
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wobblyheadedjane
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While the last part of your sentence is very true (orgasms aren't necessary for good sex), not everyone will necessarily enjoy being verbal or find it enhances their performance. Communication about what *each* partner enjoys is what makes it memorable and enjoyable.
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faifai
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Also, if this is the same guy from before who you had sex with even when you did not want to and he didn't stop, then there's no wonder you're having trouble orgasming. Sex should be a positive thing for all people involved, and when you have an inconsiderate partner (as that guy clearly was), then it's hard to get relaxed enough to orgasm at all.
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