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Unique1012
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I was wondering if someone can help me.
Im 17 and I never I repeat NEVER came before just by fingering myself. Yes it feels good for a while but then it doesn't last SOMETIMES. But I Can cum by humping and by running the bath tub fosset over my vagina. But I never came before? What does that mean? Am I not doing it right?
I mean it feels good but I cant cum like that.

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dailicious
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Different people feel different sensations and different pleasure from different types of activity. You simply don't orgasm by that sort of masturbation, that's just how your body reacts to different sensations. There's really no right or wrong about masturbation, it's just what feels good and works for you.

You could read this article, too, for a little more information:

Sexual Response and Orgasm: A User's Guide

[This message has been edited by dailicious (edited 09-30-2005).]


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Unique1012
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Yeah but does that mean that if or when I have sex that its not gonna satisfy me????

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dailicious
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That all depends, like I said. Just because you don't receive pleasure from one type of activity doesn't mean you won't be able to enjoy it from another or be able to find something you can enjoy and orgasm from. Plus, satisfaction in sex is much less about reaching the goal of orgasm and much MORE about letting yourself be relaxed, enjoy yourself, experience the encounter as a whole body experience about doing something because it's pleasureable, not because you're performing an act that is supposed to get you to an orgasm and that's that.

Most women cannot orgasm from vaginal penetration alone, they require additional stimulus. This may be true for you, and what that stimulus is is up to you and your partner to figure out. But until then, don't worry about it. And even when you reach that point? Don't worry about because the more you do the LESS you'll enjoy it and be able to find out what does work best for you.


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PERVasive
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There's no "right" way to masturbate, have sex, or orgasm. Don't worry so much about being able to cum from a particular activity, but focus on the things that do allow you to cum instead. For instance, my last girlfriend would be perfectly satisfied if I didn't stick my hand between her legs once as long as I payed attention to her breasts. I personally can't get off on "normal" porn like all my firends talk about doing, but I do get off by wetting my pants. Everybody is different, and you just need to learn what particular things you like.

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