My girlfriend used to cut because she was upset. But she hasnt in a while. In months actually. She told me that she enjoys it. Blood is a fetish of hers. She would love it if I scratched her until she bled when we are having sex. Its really sadistic to me and gruesome but it doesn't scare me. Im used to it. But I dont know if it is something I should promote. Is it healthy? Is it ok if she likes it?
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My girlfriend and I also like it a bit rough but blood adds more risk to STD transformation. Just keep in mind that if you do you should clean it up quickly and make sure that you don't transmit any of her blood into you. That can lead to worse things than STD's. Posts: 4 | Registered: Jul 2005
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Both of us have been tested recently and do not have any STDs.
I just know pretty much everyone I know tries to stop people from cutting because it is a weak coping method that helps some people temporarily deal with depression or sadness. But my girlfriend likes the pain and would enjoy cutting even when she is happy.
There's a difference between self mutilation as a coping or release method and cutting/pain as a means of arousal; the latter is often included in the boundaries of Sadism (arousal from administering pain) and Masochism (arousal from receiving pain).
Like redheadedirishman mentioned, you DO have to be careful when engaging in anything involving sex and blood. STDs aren't the only issue here, cuts on the skin can very easily become infected, for one. Transferal of blood is more of an issue of increasing the risk to pass Hepetitis or HIV, as well as STDs; basically the same risks of passing disease if there was contact or swapping of genital fluids.
Scratching to the point of drawing blood doesn't quite have the same risks as far as STDs go, but they have different risks concernings Hepetitis and HIV and just infections in general.
I just read Working the Kinks Out. Its a good article but I dont think it is catered towards what I am looking for. I am not looking for a way to stop her, honestly. I just don't want her to cut all the time and use it as a coping mechanism. I think there are other ways to handle your depression besides cutting up your body.
Would it be healthy to tell her that I would like it if she only did it if she was happy? I would offer her this as an option. Of course she doesn't need to listen to me. I am only offering advice. I just dont want there to be unwanted scars later in life along with what the other people (including my parents) would think about it.
As far as cutting goes, most cutters aren't actually looking to commit suicide, they're just looking for a way to release tension. Most cutters admit that they feel much better after they cut and don't feel the need to cut themselves again for awhile.
Because of this, cutters need to find another way to release their emotions and tension. Generally a counselor or therapist who specializes in cutters would be the best person to turn to. Perhaps you should see about taking your girlfriend to one, or (I don't know how old the two of you are) telling her parents so they can take her to one.
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