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lilbabieemee
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well i shouldnt say that because i dont have any ...im 16 and im totally flat and it sucks ..im always wearing sweatshirts to cover them. i cant stand it when other girls have them when i dont . it makes me shy and stuff cause i dont have any confindence ya know? do u kno any ideas how i can get over this. thanks
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I have very small breasts too, and I used to be really insecure about them and only wear baggy clothes and stuff. But eventually, I realized that it doesn't matter what size my breasts are--if people like me, they like me, if they don't, they don't. Just because I don't fit beauty standards doesn't mean I'm not beautiful.

But I know it can be hard to stop being shy and embarrassed by your chest. The best advice I can give is to stop thinking about it so much and concentrate on parts of your appearance and personality that you like. Never walk away from a mirror without thinking a positive thing about yourself. Remember that anyone who judges you by the size of your chest is really, really, really stupid, and probably not someone you'd want to be listening to anyway.

And if it helps any, lots of my friends with big breasts wish they had small ones, because they say big breasts are a pain.


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faifai
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I've seen that a lot of times, but, even at the risk of sounding nit-picky, it's not cool to say such and such body type is good because other body types aren't so great, so "count yourself lucky."

You're lucky because you're you, nobody else has your body and individualism is beautiful, big breasts, small breasts and everything in-between.

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Blink
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Faifai--

I didn't mean to imply that it's not good to have large breasts, but I see how it came across that way, so I edited. I guess I just meant to point out that people whose bodies you might be envying might be envying yours.

Thanks for pointing it out. Sorry.


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[QUOTE]Originally posted by Blink:
[B]I have very small breasts too, and I used to be really insecure about them and only wear baggy clothes and stuff. But eventually, I realized that it doesn't matter what size my breasts are--if people like me, they like me, if they don't, they don't. Just because I don't fit beauty standards doesn't mean I'm not beautiful.

But I know it can be hard to stop being shy and embarrassed by your chest. The best advice I can give is to stop thinking about it so much and concentrate on parts of your appearance and personality that you like. Never walk away from a mirror without thinking a positive thing about yourself. Remember that anyone who judges you by the size of your chest is really, really, really stupid, and probably not someone you'd want to be listening to anyway.


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Why are your worried about the size of your breasts? Is it because society says that big breasts are beautiful? That doesn't mean you still aren't beautiful. I have small breasts and I didn't used to be very happy about that but my boyfriend says they are just perfect, in fact he prefers my size in contrast to 'big' breasts so i feel a whole lot more secure about them. In fact, some girls don't like breasts at all and might be envying you. It could be worse, you could have two different sized breasts (which does happen! like one of the stories on this site) or you could have had really large breasts that stand out too much.

The point is to be happy with what you've got. I know its hard and as long as you are a female you will constantly be dissatisfied at something about your looks. But the more you realise that that is how your body is and no matter what media, peers or society says is beautiful, you are fine! You'll find you're not alone and that many of your friends will be just as worried about something of their looks and perhaps jealous of you.


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i don't know if this will help.. But i've been in ur palce before.. what i did to overcome that was that i just tried on different bras.. for example, wearing unpadded bras with wires in it.. it'll give your breast more of a natural shape and makes it look better rather than wearing padded ones.

I use to envy of big breasted girls too wishing that i did have big breast, but I just have to accept the fact that what I have is what makes myself stand out, it makes me who I am, not like everyone else, I, myself am unique.
Also, if whenever ur legal age.. and u know for sure that ur growing have stopped in the chest areas.. there are many solutions out there that u can pick from.. as long as ur happy with it and know what ur getting urself into it.

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There are plenty of guys out there who like girls with smaller breasts. A lot of it also deals with proportion of the person. Look around. There are actually many small chested women in Hollywood and they aren't ashamed.
I read somewhere that most women's boobs don't stop growing till their mid twenties. Assuming you're not that old yet, never fear, your boobs might still grow.

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You know, you're 16 and you will not stop growing until you're 21 or so. People grow in mysterious ways, a year or so ago I was completely flat, but now I have some breasts, albeit small, they are still there and they are a pain because I get stretchmarked very easily.

It's not all about breats you know. If someone likes you genuinely, they would like all of you, with your perks and ups and downs. Do people stop loving each other when they are angry at each other? I don't really think so. There is a lot more to you than your chest, so stop worying about it and have fun.


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I HATE my boobs!~ 1 is mature and round and the other isn't round at all. The round one is almost a B cup, but the other is an A cup. Just recently I found a bra that made me feel a little better, because somehow it gave me cleavage(It isn't padded or anything!)... So I pretty much feel you're pain. Luckly I found a guy that prefers small boobs to big ones. His reason: when you're older they don't sag as much!

So Be happy, I know it is hard, but trust me, you'll have more fun if you just learn to at least respect your chest.


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Just another flatchested gal here! Yeah, I used to be all self-conscious about them too (having a relationship with a self-proclaimed "boob man" didn't help even though he said he didn't mind that mine were small), but now I really like them. I just really like my shape. It's mine, what can I say? The human body is an amazing thing, and what's great about it is that everyone's is different!
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ive given tis advice to another girl who was upset about her body.
in 10 years do you really think it will matter how big your boobs are? no it wont what will matter is what you learned while you were young. what wont matter is who WAS prettier or who WAS a c or d cup.
also right now there are things alot more important than your bra size. like who is president, and how the land of tolerance isnt so "tolerent". there are issues at hand more important. i mean tomorrow i could be living in CANADA, so im really not worried about how i look.
oh, and also, boob implants are a BAAAAAD idea. i no sumone who got them and she is MISERABLE, she says it feels like shes always lugging around a huge secret, and that it TOTALLY wasnt worth it.

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ive given tis advice to another girl who was upset about her body.
in 10 years do you really think it will matter how big your boobs are? no it wont what will matter is what you learned while you were young. what wont matter is who WAS prettier or who WAS a c or d cup.
also right now there are things alot more important than your bra size. like who is president, and how the land of tolerance isnt so "tolerent". there are issues at hand more important. i mean tomorrow i could be living in CANADA, so im really not worried about how i look.
oh, and also, boob implants are a BAAAAAD idea. i no sumone who got them and she is MISERABLE, she says it feels like shes always lugging around a huge secret, and that it TOTALLY wasnt worth it.

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I am 23 years old. Up until three years ago I was a 40 EE. I am only about 5'3" and have a curvy figure. My breasts sagged and caused me constant backache and neckache. I hated my breasts. I couldn't find clothes to fit me, couldn't find bras to support me, and I couldn't stand to look at myself in the mirror. Three years ago I had a breast reduction surgery and now both my breasts are scarred. It's not a pretty site. But I love my breasts because I'm healthier because of my surgery. I can wear clothes that don't hang off me, I can find cute bras, my back and neck don't hurt anymore, and I can jump around and run around without pain and discomfort.

Beauty is relative and you are stuck with your body forever so learn to love her. She's beautiful. She lets you run and jump and dance and laugh. She's yours for life.

And if you're worried that boys won't like them--trust me, they will. My boyfriend adores my breasts, scars and all. If anyone ever makes you feel bad because of your breasts, you need to simply get away from them. Not worth it.

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