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*Girl*
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I am really really uncomfortable with the look of my vagina,well no,my labia!!! they just look out of place and not very nice.I mean the inner ones, they come out of the outer ones a bit which just dusnt look right to me. And i know no that this is normal and evrything, but still i cant help thinking that everyone elses inner labia stay inside the outer ones.Is their n e one who feels the same? I feel like i'm the only one with this, and i dont feel like ill eva want to get intimate with a boy bcoz im too ashamed of my labia.
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Heather
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You know, it often takes people some time to get comfortable with their bodies in the presence of others. So, if you're not there yet, you're not there yet. That's okay. Sex should never be a hurry -- no one gets a prize for crossing the finish line first.

Do other people feel that way? Yes. But mainly, that's likely due to young women not seeing what other vulvas look like, because what you're describing is what a normal vulva looks like. In other words, you're worried about someone seeing what they would be seeing on any other living woman.

Most inner labia do extend at least a bit beyond the outer labia. It may not look "right" to you, but how many have you seen, love, in person? Likely very, very few, and if you've seen labia in pinup magazines or the lot, what you're usually looking at are labia which have been tucked and placed to look smaller than they are.

See if your library doesn't have a book called "Femailia" by Joani Blank, where you can see page after page of a wide diversity of vulvas and labia. Ask your gynecologist about what a normal vulva looks like. Spend some time realizing that not liking your vulva as-is is pretty destructive business, and remember that your genitals do serve a purpose other than for display. Your inner labia, for instance, are there for a number of reasons: they help keep bacteria out of the vagina and urethra, and they also are part of what creates sexual sensation in your genitals.

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*Girl*
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Thanks. I never realised that most vulvas were the same as mine. I thought it was a rare thing to have your inner labia a bit visable. And your right i havnt seen any others to compare to. Thanks for all your help
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-Jill
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My protruding inner labia have found this thread worth reading: http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/001337.html
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celery
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Hun, don't worry about it, I used to feel the same exact way until I realized it was normal and not all vulvas look the same.
So don't sweat it

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chocolaterulz
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hey hun, i used to feel exactly the same way. i thought my labia looked odd and different from everybody else, but i have recently learned that i am one hundred percent normal, every vulva is different and unique. actually it was because of this site that i have come to love my genitals....:-D
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Friendlydude
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Trust me, he's probably just as scared as you are of being naked in front of someone else he cares about. Remember, boys are obsessed with size and whether or not a girl will say something about it being small.

If anything he'll be understanding. But I assure you labia come in all different sizes, textures and pigmentation. Don't worry about it as you're normal.


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Just a point...
Guys are not obsessed with size. It is very possible, and common, for guys to be completely comfortable with the size of their penis.
This is not to say a guy won't be sensitive about their partner's feelings. Honestly, if you can't trust a guy to not ridicule you or hurt your feelings, you probably don't want to be intimate with him.

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*Girl*
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Thanx very much everyone uve made me feel a lot better Obviosily what i have cant be that rare if u all have it 2 lol thanx xxx
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i just read all that..and well, ol if it makes u feel anybetter, im kinda uncomfortable cuz the .."lips" or whatever u wanna call em on me. i think are too big lol.
vanessa

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alaska
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hi tiny,
the "lips" of you vulva are called "labia" (inner and outer labia), and like written in the thread, it's perfectly normal for the inner labia to be larger than the outer ones.

no reason to feel uncomfortable: i hope all this info and the talk by the others about their labia will ideally make you feel better about yourself in the long run instead of more worried and uncomfy.

for more check out Pink Parts Female Sexual Anatomy - a guided tour for your genitals!

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