i know a lot of guys that wont even think about dating a girl unless she has large breats. for me i dont really care either way...but if i could choose i would say i prefer smaller breasts. i was wondering how the girls and guys feel about the way breasts(to me one of the less important aspects of a girl) are held in such high regard in society.
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Well, I don't leave in the same country as you, but I wouldn't say that guys pick the girls to date based on their breast size... at least I've never heard of that around here... The ones who might do, might be like 10-13 year olds, but what they're looking for, in my opinion, is just fun with the girl and no "serious" dating... [correct me if I'm wrong].
Even if there are guys who think that way... well, then those are the ones to keep away from
I honestly think that's so stupid and immature I don't know what else to say eheh
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seems a lot of people wonder about breasts. peek in Ladies Room, and you'll see a (or a few) hopping threads about breasts (but posting is limitied to girls only!). Body & Soul and Basics & Health are full of topics about breasts.
Fact of the matter is, you like small breasts, other people like large breasts, other people don't even like breasts. What do you get out of all this? Everyone likes something different, so it's not going to get oyu anywhere asking what everyone else likes because you're just going to get a barrage of answers going in every direction.
oh, okie dokie. in that case, i for one think that if a guy (or girl, there are lesbians and bisexuals out there, too) puts too much emphasis on a girl's bust size, then they're really shallow. whatever happened to a good personality?
I definately agree with Gumdrop Girl. If a person goes out with another person soley based on a physical attribute(s), that person is indeed shallow.
However, I would like to say that I believe that image is and does have impact on a person's attraction. A person often receives a first impression via sight. Many times this will affect attitude directed toward that other person. Like it or not, judgements ARE made at first impressions. They may be valid or they may be pure fabrication, but they will inevitabily invoke feelings according to our personal tastes and experiences.
This first attraction may be a primary factor that causes one individual to approach another. The conceptions, based on that image and their use of body language, will impact how we act toward that individual. Will we invite further social interaction? Or will we turn them away?
If the two are mutually attracted, the relationship may progess as they get to know one another. They may find they are compatable, or they may find that they can't stand each other, or perhaps they will conclude it is just somewhere in between.
Image ISN'T everything, but there are many who would pretend it is. What matters is how you feel about yourself and who you are, and also who your partner is.
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[This message has been edited by Aaron (edited 06-10-2001).]
I think it's astonishing how some people do seem to think that a physical aspect of a person will be the be all and end all of a relationship. I know that there is always a first impression based solely upon looks and superficial appearance, but in a relationship it should go beyond that. I know that if somebody doesn't look me in the eyes then that's an immediate turn-off, talk to ME, not my breasts!!! I hate that! I wish there wasn't one physical sexual aspect that seemed to be so universally (I mean everyone can see them) recognisable that they were just seen to be part of you in your entirety.
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I realy could not care less if a girl has big brests or no brests at all but what i do hate is people saying that guys only like girls with big boobs or that guys only like a girl because she has bigger brests or whatever it realy pisses me off sorry rant over ~VeNT
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I suppose for me, breast size plays a small part, (after all, as Aaron said, like it or not, most of us will put stock in our first impressions of that person) but, overall, I find that personality is really what draws me to a girl.
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Personally, I don't date anybody who is only interested in my chest, and not me. I've had some BAAAAD experiences with that (won't go into details), but I realize that my breasts are part of what makes me me, and if a guy is attracted to me, inside and outside, then I don't mind. However, a guy (or girl) who only dates women for their breasts is definitely not the type of person with whom I would want to be in a meaningful relationship.
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You know, Hobbes, sometimes I think the surest sign of intelligent life elsewhere in the universe is that none of it has tried to contact us. ~Calvin~
I think the whole idea of women getting breast implants to improve their self-esteem is really shallow on their part. And what I've noticed, a lot of them give the reason that they'll attract more guys with larger breasts. A male friend of mine told me that he can't stand implants because they still just don't feel like real breasts to him. Plus implants can cause infections which would cost more money to take them out, along with all the pain that the woman goes through. If their social lives do improve after the implants, than I attribute that to just a mental state of mind where they *think* that they're doing better. It might just be though that they finally accept an invitation to a pool party that they could have accepted ages ago and shown up in a bikini.
I don't think a lot of guys really care all that much. No one has said anything to me, including the guys that I've dated. Some guys probably just like breasts that they can get their hands on legally. I fail to see the fascination of them though. All women have them. If a guy grows them though naturally, then he doesn't like them and feels a need to get rid of them.
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Posts: 354 | From: san mateo, california, usa | Registered: Jun 2001
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Actually, body modification is the "in" thing at the moment. If people are having piercings and tatoos, why not breast implants? Some like them, some don't. Some like tatoos and piercings, some don't. I really think this should be a personal choice thing.
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All the girls around me have issues with their breast size. One thinks hers are too big, another thinks hers are too small, still another was convinced hers were too small (but I finally got through to her). Really, though, they're all beautiful regardless of their cup size. Breasts don't make a person, personality makes a person. I'll take the girl with less of a chest and more of a personality over the girl with all chest and no personality any day.
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All the guys I know say they will take personality over cup size any day, but if they're in a situation where they can meet women, they'll go talk to the ones with the largest breasts first. If he doesn't like her, he'll try the next biggest pair of breasts. If they're attached to a not-so-nice owner, he'll try the next biggest pair, and so on. I can be a nice as possible, but guys will always come to a pair of breasts attached to a tolerable person before they get to me.
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I think it's unfair to say guys are attracted to girls with big breasts. *Hey, I'm taking the guy's side here...!*
First of all, I'm a 34B or C cup, nothing huge and I never had a problem with guys.
Second of all, I know lots of girls who are a 36C or D and they never had a boyfriend.
I think guys look at the overall silhouette, butt, chest and hips included, but eyes and face too. If the overall package looks good it's a "good deal". I don't think they are only basing their choices in big boobs. The overall beauty is much more important, in my opinion.
I will always be saying the same thing: Guys will take a woman with a beautiful face with an average body (too skinny or too big) over a girl with a nice body but an not so fun to look at face.
Am I right or what?
Well, I might be a little off track, but from what I've learned with guys in the past 17 years, that IS my conclusion.
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Breasts are concentrated on a lot these days. Whether we like it or not. Our society is basically just really messed up. All that goes through people's minds are...(drum roll please...) sex. Plain and simple, well it's not really all that simple.
People will go through hell and high water to look like the model they saw in a magazine. Or they'll jump on a chance to "Lose 10 Pounds In 10 Days".
Personally I think people should be comforatible with who and what they are. Even if getting breast implants is "in" right now, wasn't hanging out at the ice cream parlor with your gee golly swell boyfriend and going to sock hops "in" once?
What's pouplur in our world will change over the days, weeks, and even years. But doing something as drastic getting breast implants or getting a tatoo is hard to change once the trend is gone.
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